Judging people is so easy – too easy
Please take a look at this video. I found it online and it is actually pretty funny. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uNdapXryZ98
Various main characters get into situations that look much different to outsiders that only took little time to make up their minds as to what is going on. And they are wrong.
The common denominator here is that no one bothered to ask any question. That is very common to all of us. We may all do this on a daily basis and it could not be more riddled with issues.
Let me illustrate this with a recent example of my own. I was in Germany on a train with my family and with my sister’s family. My sister and I were in stitches over the fact that she had fallen badly during a visit to a science museum. She wasn’t badly hurt, but it looked like a space shuttle launch. It had been extremely funny and we had the giggles right there on the train reflecting on it.
During this giggle-fest an African man (he was on the phone loudly speaking in his native tongue; yes, I know it is irony at work that her and I were assuming this) sat down not far from us. After about 20 minutes he got up to get out of the train and he passed right by us. He turned around and asked my in English were I was from. I told him and tried asking him the same question.
What then ensued took my breath away. He totally lost it and berated me about how I will get into trouble one day if I do not manage to calm down. I’ll spare you the other details. It was so bad that other train guest’s started to get up to intervene. Fortunately, that was not necessary as he finally got off the train.
I was stumped. That was until I realized that the man must have assumed that my sister and I had been laughing about him. I felt really bad about this situation, but a little while later I pondered the question as to why this person never asked us straight out if we had laughed about him. I would have been glad to explain the situation (I actually even had photos to prove the story).
Then I asked myself what I would have done had I been in the place of the other person. I am still not so sure that I would have done it. It is so much easier to think and judge situations and leaving them be, but getting upset about it anyway.
That is my call to action. Take a deep breath before you get yourself too worked up. Stay calm and cool. Try thinking rationally and ask questions helping clarify whatever misunderstanding may be at hand. The world will be a better place because of it.