I refuse your reality and substitute my own – knowing your tipping point
Sometimes you can just no longer ignore other people’s bad choices impacting you, or people whom you love. When you approach this tipping point you just know that the other’s person reality is no longer one you can share – you have to take a leadership role and finally do something.
This takes courage, but most of all it takes knowing yourself and raising your self-awareness: When is enough, enough?
Amongst the most sensitive and difficult situations arise in our marital relationships. There are a plethora of issues that can sprout up at any given time:
- Lack of appreciation
- Psychological abuse
- Physical abuse
- Drug abuse
- Insert your personal challenge with your significant other here __________________
It will take courage to come to the realization that you can no longer go one without taken action. That is not the only part where you will need to confront your fears, because the next big moment comes when you ponder and implement an action plan that gets you out of the misery.
That is when you are facing the tipping point. It comes with great challenges. On one hand you could maintain status quo – because you know what you know. It may not be nice what you are going through, but the question what could and would happen when you make a change can be overwhelming.
Contrast this with how much of a positive change will happen when you make the decision to do something about your situation. In the vast majority of the cases you will not be able to change your significant other. That is especially true when alcohol and drug abuse comes into play.
One key question to ask you in the process of finding yourself here is: Will you be able to live with the constant nagging thought of regret when you choose to do nothing?
I will leave you with the mental approach to conquering fear that has served me well for years now. Think about how little time it takes to make even a big change in comparison to the eternity of a potential much better time to follow. Isn’t it worth to jump your personal shadow of fear? Refuse to live the reality meant for someone else. Substitute your own.