12 ways how to earn your black belt in unwarranted optimism
Do you envy perpetually happy and content folks? They seem to have it totally together no matter what happens to them. They are engaged, motivated, and optimistic even under the most difficult conditions. How can this be?
Success like this leaves traces and all you have to do is following it. Make the investment and take a look the list below and also study people who already seem to earned their black belt in unwarranted optimism.
- Optimism is a choice. Yeah, I know. Many self-help gurus preach and teach about that and each one typically offers a solution that can be bought at a nominal fee, of course. Here it is simply pondering what options there are and then to simply engaging in it. You do not have to necessarily pay others to do this.
- No one has the power to take that choice away from you. That should make you feel better already. NO ONE owns your choices and only you know what you know.
- It’s not a failure, it’s a success that has not happened yet. Mental re-framing of the challenges ahead of you is key to staying optimistic. This is not some hokey advice, but the open invitation to shy away from seeing problems rather than opportunities right from the get go.
- It’s not whom you know, it’s who knows you. It helps when you have friends who know you, they know what you are all about, and what you aspire to become. A small yet very important difference. People who know you and your goals can create predictable miracles for you and you need not do a thing. They cover your back and you may not even know about it. Cool stuff!
- A smile and a little laughter will carry you and others through the day. Pay attention to when you make the effort of smiling when you interact with people. Don’t they appear to be much friendlier too and are they not much more leaning toward helping you, if you started out approaching them with a smile?
- No matter how bad things are for you, they can be worse. Don’t believe me here? Go to e.g. a children’s hospital like CHOP in Philly and meet with kids who have cancer. If you have not seen optimism and hope in action, this should do it.
- Never fight with issues on your own. Seek community and collaboration. Shared sorrow is half the sorrow. You are never really alone and this is not the time or place to become a martyr for your cause.
- Most human issues have been around forever. There have got to be solutions around. Ask friends and acquaintances, as well as engaging the Internet to look for suitable help and answers.
- Answer the following question: Will I still be thinking about the issue I am facing now in 2 years? Do not take yourself too seriously, period. A balanced life is so much more important than losing your hair and sleep over it. Do not be complacent either though; retain your sense of urgency and integrity and act on the future as it emerges.
- If it was easy, someone else would do it. The only people who usually do not believe that are managers with a low self-awareness and sense of being your quarterback first. Most jobs we have nowadays are complex and multi-faceted – who else but you can do this? Chances are you are pretty good at it. Be proud of that and use your strengths to really make a difference. It will not go unnoticed.
- Most issues are related to lack or inaccurate communication. That is something you can affect. Be the one who makes the effort to ask for clarity first.
- The vast majority of issues go away the faster you address them at the root. Speed rules in fighting issues. Ounces worth of prevention reap tons of rewards later in time, nerves / morale saved, and of course, money.
Make the effort looking into the mirror every day and making the commitment to really liking what you see when you stare at yourself. Be amazed how much this practice can change your outlook in life. Then fire off one or more of the dozen tips from above and see what happens. You should be well on the way to getting your black belt.