Skinny guy trapped in a fat suit – The thing about perception
You get to make a first impression only once – and that’s it. The visual impression and image of your first meeting with someone is what is going to remain stuck in the other person’s brain for a while. Worse yet, your appearance may lead to being typecast depending on mostly visual cues. Once you are put into a drawer, you will have a hard time getting out of it; it isn’t impossible though.
I know what I am talking about because I have been on both side of the scale (pun intended). The difference still astounds me to this day how, when you are a plus size, folks are hesitant to fully engage in public, perhaps avoid you altogether, do not take you serious, etc. just to name a few things.
Interestingly enough, when you meet with the same people more regularly the seemingly superficial categorization may all but completely disappear. Once you show up on time, deliver content and value consistently as well as competently, you get your couple of extra chances to be very successful at what you are doing. Appearance turns into a less important item.
What makes the main difference here? It’s mainly the perception of yourself. What if you think of yourself being a skinny person stuck in a large person suit? It is that kind of mental preparation and your thinking pattern that makes all the difference in the world. Think of the adage that goes like this: “It is not what happens to you, it is what you make of it.” (Click to tweet this) Staying focused on the things that need to be done first and foremost will help addressing your meeting partner’s challenges. Your outward appearance becomes a secondary nature thing.
Do not get me wrong here. I am not condoning an unhealthy life style, nor do I want to create excuses. All I am saying is that if you are mentally prepared and think of you as being a lighter person first and foremost, and being really content with who you are, then you can also be doing something about your weight challenges.
Your perception is part of your reality. Do not stress out over your outward appearance. Keep focused on delivering value, dependability, and timeliness in a competent manner. Build up your brand by getting to know what you stand for. Make sure to ponder what gives you energy. Deliver tangible results. Do that quickly. Deliver on these things that are surely part of your strengths. Smile – even on your toughest day(s) – and do that often. Reflect upon this recipe of success and repeat this over and over.
Your self-esteem will rise and you will start liking yourself. That is the key item that will allow changing your outward appearance – not because you feel you have to, it’s because you want to do that. You can choose to make that difference every day. You just need to start.
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