You want to go over to the greener side of the fence, but what if it’s crab grass with dandelions?
Most of us experience a desire to change. What we really want though is homeostasis – remaining the same. Even if we have mustered all of our wits and guts and made a change, what we really wanted is to get back to a more comfortable routine.
Why we desire change is mostly due to us disliking our current routines. Perhaps core values, goals, people we work and live with are driving us crazy. That is where the greener grass syndrome enters the picture. Staying on the current side can be very dissatisfying as our brains will nag us to do something about the good old routine. If it gets to be too much we may make the change over to the other side. Once there we find a little chaos at first until we settle into our new routines. It may be different from the old set up, but it is another routine.
Important taking away from this is that you realize what you are after and that you are either happy with the nagging thoughts coming out of your brain, or you do something about it. Ask yourself how unhappy you are with the old routine and how happy you will be with the new one. How prepared are you for the possibility that you are actually one of the few people who are not going to be happy for long even on the greener side of the fence?
Be prepared and plan ahead. Self-awareness and brutal honesty with yourself are king in this scenario. Happy pondering.
PS: I actually like dandelions and any grass as long as it is green