Ten things your teenager wishes you didn’t do – from a teenager’s point of view
Ten things your teenager wishes you didn’t do from a teenager’s point of view
Today I have a guest blogger helping me shake parent’s snow globes. She is a 14 year old 9th grader with many talents. She likes theater, singing, science, languages and today she highlights her writing talent. Please welcome guest blogger Katie Weiser.
As a parent of a teenager, you may wonder why your child is distant from you or doesn’t seem to want to spend time with you. This may be because you do things your child wishes you didn’t. Coming from a teenager, there are definitely things I wish my parents didn’t do like: embarrassing me in public, trying to be trendy, or attempting to socialize with my friends. The list could go on for pages, however, I have condensed it into the top ten items teenagers wished their parents didn’t do.
- Being asked “What were you thinking?” after making a poor decision
Every time a teenager gets in trouble or makes a poor decision, every parent asks them this. However, as a parent, you may not realize that we weren’t thinking at all. Scientific research has proven that the emotional responses part of a teenager’s brain is fully developed, but not the rational thinking part. Often times, teenagers get frustrated when they are asked this question because they either didn’t know what they were thinking or simply weren’t.
- Being accompanied at the bus stop
Many of my friends are on my bus and it really embarrasses me when my dad stays at the bus stop and then waves when I get on the bus. A lot of teenagers get embarrassed when their parents acted overbearing in front of their friends.
- Packing lunches
When a parent packs a lunch, it makes a teenager feel like they are being treated like a child. Because teenagers are caught between childhood and adulthood, they don’t want to be identified with a typical childhood ritual.
- Reading text messages, emails, Facebook messages, and/or Tweets
Respecting privacy is key in a teenager’s life. We want to be independent or we want to talk about things with our friends that we may not want to discuss with you. However parents, this does not mean you shouldn’t be concerned about your children’s privacy on social media. Always remind them to keep their online profiles private and to never message anyone they don’t personally know.
- Commenting on Facebook and/or Instagram posts
This again, goes with the respecting privacy and the embarrassing topic. As much as your kids love you, we don’t need every single one of our Facebook friends to read your input on a status.
- Asking “Who you do like at school?”
This is by far the most awkward question a parent can ask their teenager. We wouldn’t tell the person we like that we liked them and it’s just as uncomfortable as telling our parents. We are also afraid that our parents will embarrass us in front of them.
- Comparing your child to other children
Teenage hood is often described as a time in a person’s life where they need validation for everything they try to do. When you tell them that someone else is better than your child, it makes them feel like they are not good enough in the world. Compliment your child when you can and make them feel special.
- Using coupons in a trendy store
This especially applies when the parent doesn’t have the coupons ready or the coupons have expired. It is actually quite embarrassing when a parent holds up the entire line because their parents had too many coupons.
- Letting younger siblings get special privileges before the older ones
This is extremely vexing to older teenager siblings! For example, my younger brother was allowed to get an Instagram (at age 11) before I was (at age 13). Even though it may be hard to say no to the younger child, it is not fair to your teenager that the younger child got a privilege before them.
- Asking the question “What do you want to be when you grow up?”
The answer to this question will always be “I have no idea” until we are actually doing what we want to do when we grow up. There is already a lot of pressure on us to do well, let alone to figure out what we want to do when we grow up.
Now this may seem like a lot to think about (and hopefully improve on). However, no matter what (or how many hormones come into play), we still love our parents with all our heart. Just as your teenage does things that peeve you, the adults do things that peeve the teenagers. Remember we still love you with all our hearts.