Relationships are earned not owed to you
There are still some sales folks around who will explosion vomit their solutions all over their potential customers followed by asking all but immediately for more business. Wow. Good luck with that approach. Totally not the LinkedIn thing to do and certainly not destined to becoming a viable sales team concept. What does not work in sales also does not work at home, or elsewhere at work either.
Patience and competency are needed in copious amounts in order for you to be offered an open ear. In the worst case scenario you will get a firm maybe, and in the best case you will be invited back. Deliver on your promises and here are three pointers leading you down the correct, or at least, better path.
- Willingness to give before asking for anything. Honestly, do you really think that asking for favors the first time you meet someone will get you anywhere? You may luck out guilt tripping someone into giving you something, but is that sustainable in the long run? Approaching anyone with an open heart, soul, and your intellect / mind and making sure that you are willing to give your talents away helping someone else is the best way to start your networking process.
- Invest your time smartly – but please make sure that you do spend time with your newfound friend. Only when you get to spend some significant quality time together will you really get to appreciate new folks and old alike. When people see and get to experience first-hand that you are the real deal you make a deeper connection that is trust based. That is the essence of relationship building.
- Make sure you are genuine and sincere. Be genuinely compassionate with everybody. Compassion means that you are suffering with someone else. That is what it is all about. When you care enough to stop noticing what the real issue is that someone has, only then will you be able creating a much more genuine relationship. Listening and truly understanding where someone is coming from is essential for applying the correct technology / method to solving issues.
If you have to ask, ask for perhaps another connection within your client’s company. Your contacts owe you nothing, certainly not respect or their time. Earn their attention by working hard connecting them with new people, ideas, concepts, products, and services that makes them better off. Great networkers help propel their contacts get and be better at what they do.