Total recall – except we thankfully don’t
When we reflect back on life and its issues we are thankfully protected by our memory distorting the view a little bit. It’s like looking through our rear view mirrors “caution: items are closer than you think”. Even the really bad things we often either do not remember at all, or we only remember the good things that stuck out. Our brains throw a blanket over the bad stuff once we have extracted what we needed to learn.
Look at a few examples that may sound familiar to you:
- The whole school experience is usually riddled with issues. When we are going through the experience we wish it would be over as quick as possible. Later in life we often look back fondly of teachers and fellow students.
- Pregnancy and the birthing process. I am going out on a limb here, but I venture saying that there would be fewer second babies if women and men would recall how painful the process was with the first one.
There are many other examples where our brain’s rearview mirror is quite distorted about the past. Always look anyway and learn your lessons, but also never forget to appreciate that some things are ok not to remember all that well.