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Do your fears control you, or are you in control of them?

Do your fears control you, or are you in control of them?  Ralf a

Fear is one of the most powerful emotions we can have. They can wreak havoc on our lives when we do not manage to deal with them properly. After all though, we still have a significant choice: we either succumb to them, or choose to ignore or combat them.

Quite a few years ago I accompanied my mom on the plane rides from Germany back home to the States. As a family and friends will be able to testify to you, no one should travel with me as many a mishap has happened to me especially during air travel. The main flight across the Atlantic went without a hitch, although we were too late for making the correct connection at Dulles airport. We only had to go on to Philly but the only flight that would still leave that night was leaving from Baltimore.

We went on a wild taxi cab ride from airport to airport barely making it to the connection flight. Then my mom looked at the plane and froze solid in her tracks: it was a very small prop plane. “Ralf, I cannot go on that plane”, she exclaimed with a trembling voice. Say what?

It took all the convincing I could muster getting her on the plane and the only reason why she relented was that she did not want to get stuck a night at a hotel and then stay overnight in Baltimore. Once we sat down on the plane she could finally tell me what was going on. When she was a 5 year old child growing up in Germany she survived a few air raids on the village where she lived. It was towards the end of WWII and air raids were becoming more intense and every time that one came about and the alarms sounded she ran up the street toward the woods and hid in the ditches next to the road. It was the prop sound from the enemy air planes that she could not stand. The sound was what scared my mom absolutely witless. She was a nervous wreck the whole way to Philly.

Isn’t that amazing that the mere sound of a plane can make us do things we seemingly have no longer control over? Good news is that we do have a choice. It took me a while to process it, but mom engaged in a few choices eventually allowing her overcoming her fears.

  • She sought companionship. Having me nearby and being able confiding in me about her fears helped tremendously in overcoming the issues.
  • She took her time processing her thoughts rationally. Taking a deep breath and slowly but surely breaking the big issue into smaller bits let her mentally tippy-toe through the fears she had.
  • She confronted her fear – eventually. Conquering fear is never easy, but in the end the choice was hers. She did not allow for fear taking her choices away.

The purpose of fear is protecting us from really bad issues to happen. Unfortunately, our brains are not really suitable distinguishing between “good” and “bad” fear. Fear is fear and the ancient part of our brain, aka lizard brain, typically chooses to let us fight, flight, or freeze. There is another action though that our brain is capable of taking: choosing to think rationally through the issues at hand. Make good use of it otherwise you may find yourself stranded at an airport.
Ralf

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2 thoughts on “Do your fears control you, or are you in control of them?

  1. I appreciate your posts.

    Yes, indeed, we do spend so much time handling our fears, escaping from them, seeking relief (which usually causes some long term problems). But so many of the fears are faux and so many of them are deminimus (so small that they have no real effect large enough to be even concerned about).

    Freeing ourselves from fears that are not actually threatening to our physical well-being is the key to living a great life – and it is very doable. I hope I have contributed to that being accomplished in my writings on my site.

    Keep up the good work. I shall cite some of your specific writings on my site.

    Keith D. Garrick

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    • Hi Keith;
      Thank you for your comment. Looks like we have a very similar take on life and how we can impact others. Looking forward to reading more posts from you. Nice job with your website. Take care and let’s stay in touch. Ralf

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