If the broom fits, ride it – if it doesn’t then don’t
This is a close cousin of “if the shoe fits, wear it – if it doesn’t then don’t”. These saying refer to situations when other not so nice folks try baiting you to into becoming upset. They say things just to irk you, getting a rise out of you for the sake of their and other people’s amusement. The bottom line is that you have to keep your cool no matter how hard they are trying for you to let your lizard brain take over. Why? That is really simple: when you let your oldest part of the human brain go into flight, fight, or freeze mode situations can spiral out of control really fast. Only when your intellect is fully engaged can situations such as this be turned back into something you can control.
The most effective control action that you can choose is ignoring the picking and prying of your counterparts. Choose to not ride that broom and not to wear that shoe. Let the insults bounce right off of you. Most of those nasty folks will let go of you right away.