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3 ways of scaring your fear away

3 ways of scaring your fear away Werner wedding photo

Photo credit: Ralf Weiser, mom during happier times

Fear is one of the most powerful emotions we can have. It can wreak havoc on our lives when we do not manage to deal with it properly. After all, we still have a significant choice: we either succumb to it, or choose to ignore or combat it.

Quite a few years ago I accompanied my mom on the plane rides from Germany to the States. As anyone in my family will be able to testify to you, no one should travel with me as many a mishap has happened to me especially during air travel. The main flight across the Atlantic went without a hitch, although we were too late for making the correct connection at Dulles airport. We only had to go on to Philly but the only flight that would still leave that night to Philly was leaving from Baltimore. Dulles was pretty much done for the night.

The only choice I had was to go to the taxi stand or renting a car. So we chose the taxi and went on a wild cab ride from airport to airport barely making it to the connection flight. Then my mom looked at the plane and froze in her tracks: it was a very small prop plane. “Ralf, I cannot go on that plane”, she exclaimed with a trembling voice. Say what? Let’s go!

It took all the convincing I could muster getting her on the plane and the only reason why she relented was that she did not want to get stuck a night at a hotel and then stay overnight in Baltimore. Once we sat down on the plane she could finally tell me what was going on. When she was a 5 year old child she survived a few air raids on the village where I used to live. It was towards the end of WWII and air raids were becoming more intense and every time that one came about and the alarms sounded she ran up the street toward the woods and hid in the ditches next to the road. Bombs rained down at least once in the village. It was the prop sound from the enemy air planes that she could not stand. Too vivid were the memories attached to this dreary sound. The sound was what scared my mom absolutely witless. It meant big time trouble and fear for losing her life. She was a nervous wreck the whole way to Philly. Did I mention that we sat in the front of the plane next to the propeller?

Isn’t that amazing that the mere sound of a plane made mom lose control of her emotions and actions? Good news is that we do have a choice. It took me a while to process it, but mom engaged in a few great choices eventually allowing her to overcome her fears:

  • She sought companionship. Having me nearby and being able confiding in me about her fears helped tremendously in overcoming the issues.
  • She took her time processing her thoughts rationally. Taking a deep breath and slowly but surely breaking the big issue into smaller bits let her mentally tippy-toe through the fears she had.
  • She confronted her fear – eventually. Conquering fear is never easy, but in the end the choice was hers. She did not allow for fear taking her choices away.

The purpose of fear is protecting us from really bad issues to happen. Unfortunately, our brains are not really suitable distinguishing between “good” and “bad” fear. Fear is fear and the ancient part of our brain aka lizard brain, typically chooses to let us fight, flight, or freeze. There is another action though that our brain is capable of taking: choosing to think rationally through the issues at hand. Make good use of it and scare the fear away.

Ralf

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