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Don’t get mad at your enemies – forgive and love them anyway, they hate that

Don’t get mad at your enemies – forgive and love them anyway, they hate that 

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There is barely a day when people openly attack you on FB, they “unfriend” you, or they otherwise hide behind their social media keyboards to somehow lash out at you. When people get under your skin because they really loathe you and what you do, the best you can do here is to close your eyes, say a prayer, and whole heartedly forgive them. They hate this even more, and you feel better.

Traffic, work, neighbors, family, school, and so many other places are rich with friends, and also really nasty people. This kind of nastiness can drain you of all your energy and anything you do and even think about, can soon be consume your thoughts and feelings. “All” it takes is engaging your power of choice: choose love and inclusion instead of hatred. This will free your spirit and all but automatically remove the power other people have over you. They do not have power over you without your permission anyway.

Feel brave? One more way to kick things up a notch is to approach the people who hate you openly. Manage to remain friendly, but have the candor of asking them what you can do to make things better. More often than not their anger only resides in their heads because their brains had had a monologue instead of an actual dialog with you.

When that happens their thoughts can spiral out of control and the negativity – sometimes all of it – is a purely homemade issue and you are only a cheap pawn in this blame game. Worse yet, since you were never invited to a dialog you do not even know what their grudge may be all about. That is something you can do something about by opening up and approaching them. Disagreement in itself is not negative. We are all different and that is why we should have different points of view from time to time. All we need to find is a better way to have an open dialog. Only when we find a way to have this will be able to make progress towards something new and better.

Hatred is tiresome and draining. Most of all it is not long term sustainable without causing other issues. This can change overnight if you are willing to make the greatest change of all: Changing yourself. Choose love and forgiveness and the world and people will open up to you.

Ralf