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You get what you tolerate – on the job and at home


You get what you tolerate – on the job and at home 

Another close relative of candor is tolerance. It is not necessarily the polar opposite, but in fact it can be worse as tolerance comes close to indifference. Tolerating a pattern of performance issues, incompetence and a pattern of mistakes will only get you and the other party into trouble. Yes, you will have to put some will power into being honest with yourself and then others. The benefits outweigh the disadvantages almost all the time. The moment you put it out there what you would like to see, people will naturally change on their own in order to help you. If the pattern still continues you now know that you must make tougher choices: Do you need to change yourself or is it time to abandon your current relationship? Thinking and acting upon your choices will bring peace of mind.

Take some typical examples from work. You have a co-worker that annoys you with his loud telephone conversations. You could just leave it be, complain to others about this and finally just be miserable about it. On the other hand, you could choose to speak with the colleague and tell him how you feel and ask if he could possible do something about this. Catch the drift?

Here is a tip how to bring your issue up with others: First and foremost you need to have a plan what and how you wish for change to occur. Why is a plan important? You need to keep the meeting with your other party as constructive and factual as possible. Confrontation is not the way to go as you pull feeling and emotion into the discussion, which can put everybody’s brain into flight or fight mode. That would not be good. Identify the issue and think about what would happen if nothing changes.
Write it down and share this thought with your counterpart during the meeting. Now think really hard about what the change look like that you are asking about. Voice your desired outcome in the meeting.

This topic is just as relevant in your social life. Take for instance you being a parent. Especially kids will push the envelope to what they can get away with. Every time that they nudge and push you it takes quite a few nerves to sticking your proclaimed boundaries. The moment you give in because you are too exhausted anymore they win and it gets to be even tougher for you regaining control of the situation the next time around.

Life is all about the choices you make. Choose speaking about this and affect a change even if it is hard at first to make the start. Remember that you will be feeling better about yourself when you make the choice to not tolerate things that upset you. Are you ready to make some tough choices? Where can you make a start that you can experiment with this?

Ralf

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Avoid living in regret by stopping to believe you have no time


Avoid living in regret by stopping to believe you have no time 

One sentence that you will surely never hear from people on their deathbed is that they wished they could have spent more time at the office when they had a chance to do so. When we regret things it is typically more about something quite opposite: Spending more time with people whom we love and value the most. It is the quality time that we often wished we could be with our key folks. This wishful thinking brings along plenty of stress. How often do you think that you have done an inferior job being a great mom or dad, aunt or uncle, etc?

This thought is also providing much of the answer: Stop the wishful thinking as soon as possible. Give your brain some time to really think about the choices that you are making every day. We are designed to live a balanced life. Then life – especially our business one – gets in our way and we no longer have time. What you are really doing to yourself is that you are telling yourself that you do not have time. But that is because you are not making an active choice to make time for the things that are important to you.

Today I received this wonderful post that helps dive deeper into the reasons behind us having such a short time horizon. https://medium.com/the-mission/if-you-dont-want-to-regret-your-life-30-years-later-make-this-one-choice-right-now-1cc137516df0 Key notion of this article is investing in more compound time instead of directing all our doing and being to short term activities and actions. It is a must read post.

So here goes your challenge: Next time that you get a chance spending more time with your loved ones, ponder what you would miss if you did not go. Now make an active choice to re-arrange your work and social schedule and make it happen. Not only does this feel great, but you will be able to live a more balanced life – without regret.

Ralf

9 attributes of successful people


9 attributes of successful people 

Success leaves a trail – follow it, it’s that simple. Always. Take any of your favorite leaders and successful people that you look up to and take inventory of what makes them so special. In the majority of the cases you will find that they are just folks like you and I. There are a few things in which they may be different than you. Those are the things to look out for. They would be the ones that you can learn from and pick up a little success along the way.

Please find below a list with attributes top notch folks are mastering:

  • Perseverance: Successful folks stick it through and never give up easily.
  • Focus: Intense laser like focus on making the important thing the most important thing.
  • Friendliness: Smile and laugh – often. It’s good for your health and relationships.
  • Curiosity: Having an open mind, heart, and will.
  • Risk taking and prototyping: Taking calculated risks by prototyping strategies and tactics.
  • Love and inclusion: Always show empathy and compassion as well as include people.
  • Generosity: Sharing of their success and making other people just as successful.
  • Integrity: Unquestionably predictable and trustworthy.
  • Collaboration: Know how to collaborate with all stake holders.

This is just a brief listing of things to watch out for. It is a start though. Watch your list of favorite successful people and learn from them. Better yet, why not trying connecting with them and asking them to become your mentor? Ask for no favors, but do ask them open-ended questions like who they looked up to and who inspired them to become who they have become. Success leaves a lot of trails to follow. If successful people walk funny, walk funny too.

Ralf

Top career advice for Millennials, well, and other generations


Top career advice for Millennials, well, and other generations 

Remember the days back in school or in sports when you were waiting to be picked for playing on a team? What if no one picked you and you were the last one to be picked? How did that make you feel? That is anxiety pure. Worse yet, it trained you to believe you have no choice in this transaction.

Even more unfortunate is that this picking and choosing moves along in education and later your career. You apply for college and you get picked to come onboard. You look for work, apply for a job and you get picked. Annual reviews are held and you are told what your performance was and what it should be. You get picked more often than you may realize. So, do you really not have a choice?

You do have a choice and most of all you do need to be the one of all people who needs to pick yourself first. Don’t wait to get picked! Hold nothing back. You deserve to use your talents to full potential. It would be selfish and outright egotistical to hold them back. How dare your team coach, boss, etc. telling you that you cannot make progress? Pick yourself first and then look for the team that needs you for whom you are about to become. Money will all but automatically follow you whatever you choose to do.

Ralf

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