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How does one sense someone’s power and gravitas?


How does one sense someone’s power and gravitas? 

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Just very recently I got a call from a good friend of mine. We talked about the things we would like to achieve next – our life goals. I was not so sure that could pull it off when she shared with me that she thought that I could do anything I would set my mind to: “The very first time I met you, I could sense that you have an unbelievable power and force.” For starters, I was very thankful for her kicking me in the side for doubting myself. After all, believing in yourself and realizing your full potential is what I believe in and it is something that I am trying to let others ponder too.

More profound though, I was taken aback about the mere fact that someone could sense power and / or force. Huh? How in the world does this work? I thought about the many people I am blessed to meet. Very often I can sense that there is something special about them. I catch myself thinking that I should really make an effort to paying attention to what they have got to say. There may be a certain calmness and competency that “oozes” out of them. They may share a sense of substance and competence without as much as saying a word.

So here is the puzzler part for you: How do you tell that someone has these powerful attributes? Is there something physical that you can pick up on? Is it something they say? Is it how they say it? What makes you want to hang out with them? What are the non-verbal clues that you can sense? More importantly, how can you tap into this unseen power as well?

Ralf

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5 ways of being better about being in the moment


5 ways of being better about being in the moment 

Social media are great. I just love using all sorts of platforms as they have really enriched my life and I can get and stay in touch with so many old and new friends. And then again, nothing beats a great warm hug – person to person. One thing that social media has not been able to do is to genuinely connect us humans the same way as sharing a moment together in person. So how do you balance the two?

The answer is surprisingly simple. Use social media and all its bounty to the fullest. At the same time scan for opportunities where you can connect with folks at a deeper level. Seek face-to-face meeting time wherever and whenever you can. Do not be afraid of personal contact like a hug either. Here are some examples where personal connection can foster a much brighter future:

  1. Moments of collaborating genius: No matter where you meet, there are tremendous opportunities getting to know new people, and / or meeting folks at a completely different level.
  2. Major disagreement: Using texts and e-mails when you are upset are mind-numbingly ineffective. Get up and meet in person.
  3. Friends in need: This is the positive version to number 3. When friends are in dire need of help, meet in person. Flush out the real back ground of the issues. Your active listening may lead to finding a solution, and you earn respect and trust.
  4. Meeting your future significant other: You may be able finding your mate online, but you had better eventually meet in person sooner rather than later.
  5. Funerals: Filled with emotions they can be really tough. As tough as it is, try making a genuine new connection or rekindle an oldvvvv one.
  6. What are your greatest moments of meeting with folks in person? Please share in the comment section.

Don’t get me wrong, I just love connect over the Internet and use whatever new tools come our way enhancing my relationships and helping other folks wherever I can. At the end of the day, I still make sure that I go out into our interesting world seeking personal contact. A truly genuine moment between two or more people can still take our breath away, and it will be with us forever. I’ll give you a hug before you can get out your smart phone…

Ralf

Discover the toughest thing for entrepreneurs to let go of


Discover the toughest thing for entrepreneurs to let go of 

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It comes down to adapting to change and letting go of what you knew worked best when you started up your company. I have observed in many a friendly business and even I have been resistant from time to time abandoning a success recipe. After all, that is what got you this far. Challenge is that a business has stages very similar to human life. When maturity hits and we need to hire more people and build up a lot of infrastructure it is tough letting go of the figment our imagination that we call control. We should be hiring people that are much smarter and better equipped than us. We should be delegating and letting middle management take over control over most if not all important parts of our businesses. The one thing that keeps us from moving on is fear.

Fear is one of the most powerful emotions we have. Take for instance the fear of loss. No one wants to lose anything that we have an emotional attachment to. That applies to things, relationships, feelings, etc. Very often we may not even necessarily know if what we are attached to is good for us. What if letting go is the best thing that could happen to us? In this particular case we are afraid to lose our business if we changed the tried and true original business model. Don’t take my word for it. Here is a link to a fabulous book by friend Craig Hughes “The Self-Driving Company: How Getting Out of the Way Enabled My Business to Thrive”. This is the book to read when your start up business is stalling, you have employee turn over issues, you find yourself totally exhausted because you feel like you have to do everything, etc.

A good analogy to being held back by your old beliefs and the things that you are intensely focused on is the way how some monkeys are being caught in Africa. Food or other similarly interest sparking materials are being placed in a space the monkey is surely going to notice. That is typical a hole dug into the ground or an existing cavity in rock formations. When the monkey reaches into the hole grabbing the “bait” his hand no longer fits through the opening of the cavity. The catcher now fast approaches the monkey with the intention to scare him. The monkey stays caught because he does not want to lose the precious things he is holding in his hand (Discover this in action). The more he panics, the tighter he holds on to the loot.

Isn’t that a little like our entrepreneurial situation? The tighter we hold on, the more we get stuck and we get caught. So here is my call to action: Whenever you feel you have run out of options and you do not want to lose what you are attached to, please let mentally go of this attachment. Watch how liberating a feeling it is to look AT your situation and not FROM the middle of it. Ponder if letting go of the old isn’t the best thing that you should do.

Ralf

 

5 ways of not becoming a smart phone addict


5 ways of not becoming a smart phone addict 

I think we are all losing it. We are all on cell phone crack. “We” meaning the people who own a smart phone. This week while working out at the gym I noticed how many people were just sitting on various pieces of workout equipment checking their smart phones. Holy smokes! I get that you want to tune out the world by plugging in your ear buds, but just sitting around checking out the screen is neither helping stay in shape, nor is it polite keeping other folks waiting for you to get yourself off the machines.

It does not matter where you are this issue of us tuning the world around us off is rampant. From family outings when the phones are going around the table with funny or bizarre Youtube stuff being shown to going to restaurants and no one talks anymore because everyone (including the kids) is glued to their little screens. No one is safe. The little device seems to dictate when we pick it up and pay attention to it rather than the world that surrounds us.

This has got to stop. We are losing our connection to our worlds by being connected to it only electronically. What can we do?

  • For one we can turn most push notifications and dingers and ringers off. We need to make the decision to look at the device – it should not be the device telling us that.
  • Declare a cell free zone when we sit together at the table. At the restaurant switch them off and put them in the center of the table. Same for meals shared at home.
  • When you work out and you want to listen to your tunes, well, just listen to your tunes. Resist the urge checking your SnapChats, texts, and any other distracting acts of just sitting there looking at the screen.
  • Do not put the device in your bedroom. If for nothing else do not put it on your nightstand. Give yourself some space from being connected 24/7.
  • Declare a cell phone free time during the day. For two to three hours just leave the phone function on, but nothing else.

I am not sure that we can speak of a medical condition as far as us being addicted to those mystical devices – yet. We are losing a bit of our human touch if we not at least curb the constant connection to the world and yet we may lose the connection to the people who mean the most to us.

Ralf

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