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Making the process of blog writing simpler

Making the process of blog writing simpler 

This is a really useful point to ponder whether you are in the process of starting a blog or you start with a new job: You want to slip under the covers of comfort and routine as soon as possible but that can only come to fruition over some period of time. I call this the chaos period in which you will need to find out the hard way where the borders – perceived and real ones – lie. Once that has happened, you can enjoy a sense of community and your individuality. Ironically, you need each person’s individuality to make it a community and it is the community that allows for you to have your own way of doing and seeing things. You cannot have the one without the other. Realizing that there is a process behind it that will only take a few days to weeks to get into place should make it easier for you to embrace the period of chaos and insecurity. Anticipating change and its unsettling effects is half the bet to surviving and thriving in the process of it.

Where is this helpful again? Let’s say that you are starting a new job. The first 2 to 8 weeks are most likely the scariest as you need to explore the culture of the organization and how you fit and where you can make a contribution. It is unsettling and does not feel natural. Know that what you are feeling is normal and it too shall pass. Unless there is a total incompatibility you will be part of a team soon and can make a contribution and still remain an independent person as well.

Blogging for instance is a great and rewarding thing to do, but it will take some time to find your own tribe that will support and understand you. Knowing that you will go through a sense of chaos first within yourself and then with the first people paying attention to you can be a daunting thought. In order to be successful at it you will need to figure out voice and calling. It is the single most important task of your blogging / writing career right before developing content. One follower at a time will need to get what you want to stand for and the beginning can be awfully rough and chaotic before you start building a solid followership. The more you can make a case for being yourself, the greater the chance you will generate a sustainable followership (community, tribe). All it takes is an unsettling vortex of change and chaos in the beginning that you will need to put up with.

If you want to bake a cake and eat it too you will need to put up with the whole process. Here it is dealing with the sacred geometry of change that will always be your uneasy companion when you want individualism and a sense of community. That applies to the communities that you want to create as well as the ones that you will “just” become part of. Agree? Disagree?



8 solid strategies boosting your face value

8 solid strategies boosting your face value pablo-4

Photo Credit: Pablo by Buffer.com

There is a German proverb that goes something like this: “When 2 people do or say the same thing, it does not mean it is really the same”. During a recent business meeting I was once again reminded of how challenging this can be. A customer listened to information conveyed by one of my colleagues who used the same information and even words (verbatim) I had used in previous meetings with them.

Difference was that they intently listened to what my colleague had to say and they believed him. They had not done that when I had conveyed the very same information. I am sure that you have encountered very similar situations. Isn’t that fascinating? No need to get upset. It just is what it is. Sometimes we come across folks who will not value your input as much as others. At the same time cherish the connections you have with people who value your opinion over everyone else’s.

So what are some things you can do to maximize effectiveness and at the same time limit your efforts?

The first step is to realize this is happening to you. Being aware that your efforts do not carry as much weight with your conversation partners is really important. This way you can limit your efforts to an effective minimum without having to expend too much energy.

Then you should scan for people around you that have a much deeper connection with the people whose decision you want to influence. This can often take a lot of effort since sometimes the people you need may outrank you in your organization.

All of the above assumes that your “face value” is in good standing. There are a few things that influence your credibility. Do yourself the favor and boost your credibility to the extent possible.

  • Do what you say, say what you do.
  • Deliver upon your commitments. Manage them very well.
  • Deliver predictable outcome.
  • Always do a little more than is expected of you.
  • Never ever gossip.
  • Listen more than you speak.
  • Pick a specialty or a passion and become an expert at it.
  • Smile – it is the gateway to your soul.

When people tune you out it may be frustrating. It is not the end of the world though. Focus won what you want to achieve and then connect the folks that can connect better than you. Meanwhile focus your attention on boosting your own face value.


How to be one of the cool people we admire: They do not care what other people think about them

How to be one of the cool people we admire: They do not care what other people think about them


Photo credit: Ralf Weiser, Captain Sig Hansen in Bethlehem PA 2014

Admit it, people who know what they are doing and don’t care what other people think of them are just cool. They typically know what they stand for and have a list of goals that they are busy pursuing – and they are successful doing just that. Being good looking helps, but that is not necessarily a pre-requisite.

Take for instance the crew of the “Northwestern” from the TV reality show “Deadliest Catch”. Sig Hansen, his brother, and Jake (another crew member) were on tour in 2014 and I got the chance to see them in Bethlehem PA. Their antics were instant classics. Sig for instance threw out the water bottles put in front of them by the stage crew. He replaced it with a beer he had brought on stage with him from his room. He did not care that they were not supposed to do that. During the whole evening they acted out exactly like they were on the TV show. Him and the others did not care the least that they had hundreds of guests watching them.

So what makes them so different from us? Well, nothing at all. We all have the same potential as them. The only one difference is that they have not granted power to other people. Yeah, that’s right. That is the small but most important difference. They strongly believe that no one has power over them unless they let go of it to others.

Getting to know this principle is the easy part. How can they be so sure of themselves? That is the tough part. In order to gain self-confidence you have to spend quite a bit of time pondering your purpose. What legacy do you want to be known for? Where are you headed? Whom do you want in your life who can pursue your goals together with you?

That is why we admire other people: they are true to themselves. Good news is that we can all start in a moment’s notice. You’ve got to start though.


When you work with customers it is what you do – not who you are

When you work with customers it is what you do – not who you are pablo-3

Photo credit: Pablo by Buffer

Anyone in the working environment who needs to interact with other people will encounter criticism one time or another. This gets more frequent the moment you need to deal with customers.  Letting your feelings respond for you and push back by taking this personal will only end badly for all parties involved. The customer will get more upset and most likely yell more and louder.

Just before you respond to anyone in this situation, take a moment and ponder whether or not what was said criticized what you do. That means your job function, your company, your company’s policy (hope you are not actually muttering this word in front of a customer though), etc. You will find that very few if any call will ever by about only you and how you personally caused an issue because of who you are. If it was about you, then take it as an opportunity and evaluate yourself and if you need to make any changes – make them quickly.

There is of course a limit of how much of a personal attack you should subject yourself to. Fortunately there are options. It is a good practice to ask the other party if you should get off the phone until such time that the conversation gets more professional again. The last resort is to hang up with the customer for the time being and calling back later.

Allowing people to vent and to just listen may be tough, but the rewards are worth it.


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