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5 ways of how to deal with people that have a closed mind


5 ways of how to deal with people that have a closed mind 

There are probably a few folks that totally get under your skin. They believe in things that you could never subscribe to and they are vocal and obnoxious about it. You would love to argue your point and arguments with them and yet it is like you are speaking with a rock. They will not listen – ever.

A while ago we had a neighbor who had a problem a good friend of mine who used to rent a room from my parents. This friend had a habit to park his car on the side of the neighbor right in front of his property. One day he summoned Werner (my friend) and proclaimed a no parking zone for him in front of his house. “The water and melting snow cannot flow around your tires and the water keeps creating big puddles”.

I am not sure what that to do with anything, but I was later also subject to the same reasoning. Anyway, Werner did not move his car. One day it snowed hard and when he emerged from his apartment to get into his car he found it blocked in by two piles of snow; one behind and the other in front of the car. The neighbor had had his revenge.

He did not know whom he had messed with. Werner never got mad, he got even. His car was one with built-in hydrostatic suspension. He put it on high and flattened the snow mounds in little time. He lowered it as he plowed into the snow until there was no more snow mound left. Ha! The picture above shows Werner with his “present” for the neighbor. He wrote a heartfelt greeting on it. The material (soft pinewood) had something to do with what the neighbor’s head was made of.

All humorous anecdotes aside, there is a six-step process that has a good chance of working when you encounter really head strong and opinionated folks.

  1. Preach and teach once. Then zip it. Make your point and get out. Chances are that if you are lucky you will impact the person for the occasion, but rarely in general. Spare your nerves with going overboard making points to convince people of how correct you are and they are not.
  2. You always have the chance to ignore the person. In fact, that typically is the best response. No sense getting yourself all worked up just to find out that the person responding to your posts and mails is someone that goes with the populous and not with what is the best and most prudent thing to do.
  3. Love them anyway and show empathy and compassion for them. The vast majority of folks cannot stand if they are being treated nicely by their opponents. Hatred is not the answer; only love will prove to be long term sustainable.
  4. No matter what other people do, sometimes you cannot listen to your and their brain chatter and just focus on what more you can do. Who is affected by anything you do or say?
  5. Have some fun with them. Respond in a witty fashion. Much like Werner, try to be as engaging as possible. Who knows? Perhaps one day you can convince a few people to look into the sky with us.

Ignorant people are a daily fact of life. Do not take that in silence. Make sure that you are heard, but then move on. Do not dwell on it. It will not help you, nor will it really do anything with the one whose mind is closed for the day. Do you have a story to tell with ignorant folks? Would love if you shared it with us. Use the comment field below.

Ralf

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There is no excuse for not going out to travel the world


There is no excuse for not going out to travel the world 

Photo credit: Ralf Weiser

Well, even if it is not the world that you want to see, at least get out of your state. Still not comfortable with that? Can you make this getting out of your home county? Pretty please? Traveling places and getting out of your comfort zone has so many mutual benefits. It helps you relax and see how other people do some of the same stuff you are doing – just differently. It helps benefit tolerance and back at home and work it creates a sense of appreciation of what you do.

Many a times I hear that people do not set their sails because they are afraid of not knowing how they should prepare for being on the road. In essence they are afraid that they are getting lost and that they would rather travel when they are much older so that they can take guided tours. Huh? What on Earth are they really afraid of?

I could perhaps understand when people are apprehensive of traveling overseas. Not being able to understand another language can be difficult, I give you that. One thing that we humans do well though is recognizing patterns and using visual and any or all of our senses. Here is a recent example of using the railroad in Germany. Even if you do not speak or read one word of German you can still figure out which train, car, and seat you have.

This first picture shows the reservation. It gives you the train number ICE842 (Inter City Express) and the time it is scheduled to depart at Berlin at 19.49 (that is 7.49pm for us). Gleis means track and here it is number 4. All it takes is asking someone from the helpful and countless railroad folks at the station and you will get to what you need to know. This also says something about a Reservierung. I had reserved two second class seats (the web site www,db.de also fully supports English). So 2 Pl are my 2 seats in Wg for wagon or car 22 and sitting in 25 and 27.

So once you reach track 4 you will see huge announcement boards like this one. You recognize the train number and departure time. Notice the letters A through G? Those are the zones in which the track is divided. You cannot miss the huge letter signs along the track. The little symbol below the letters represents the train and where it will come to a stop. The knife and fork symbol stands for the restaurant car and the 1s and 2s stand for first and second class cars. Now I know that I had better queue up in either zone F or G.

As the train pulls in each car features a sign on its side that shows the train number ICE842 and to its right is the car number. Here it is 23 and so I had to go back one more car. This also shows the place the train starts from, the stops it will make, and also the final destination.

 

 

Getting into the car now I start looking for the seat numbers right over top the seats near the luggage rack. That is kind of like getting on to a plane. The neat thing here is that you can tell if the seats are reserved when the signs like this photo show are lit up indicating starting and ending destination. Any seats not occupied are on a first come first taken basis. Once the conductor checks your tickets (Deutsche Bahn even has an awesome App for this) and you are getting close to the final destination the signs disappear magically.

There is even free Wifi on the train and most of the time you will be zooming through the super nice country side with more than 120mph. ICE trains make very few stops and with the proper discount cards renting and driving a car is not worth it from a time and monetary point of view. Sure, there are a few moments when I initially did not know exactly what to do. I will never forget the disbelieving look from a fellow travel when he had to explain how the seat reservation sign worked in the car. Those moments come and go. They can and should not prevent you from going on the road. There is not even a language barrier when you travel into another county or state (well, there may be another dialect). Look for the patterns that emerge and make sure you travel your heart out.

Ralf

11 ways how to be a fountain and not a drain


11 ways how to be a fountain and not a drain fountain

Photo credit: Wikipedia link El Alamein Memorial Fountain in Sydney, New South Wales

It is so much easier to be a drain than to be a fountain. Of course that is not a literal reference, but it is a great analogy. When we are at our best we are a fountain of love, inspiration, empathy, compassion, creativity, and so many other positive attributes. Fountains symbolize refreshment, nourishment, and providing water as a life spending human resource. Fountains therefore help sustain life. They also represent beauty and many say they even are a source of good luck.

However, many, many people allow themselves becoming a drain to themselves and others. Just take some time at the airport, in traffic, and even at the grocery store and observe the sometimes really nasty interactions between total strangers. Ultimately, these folks are energy sinks – a drain of immense power. How about trouble with your spouse or your boss? That hits in the gut and heart, doesn’t it? You can literally feel the energy leaving your body and soul when you are close nasty people like this.

Ultimately though is your choice. Only you can choose to either take a positive route or the negative. Here a few ways how you can be that fountain to others:

  • Choose your attitude: Every morning and moment brings along a new choice for you to make. You can either choose to be miserable, or you can choose to smile and be full of joy. No, I am not saying you should fake this. No matter how miserable you think you have it, rest assure there are plenty of other people who have got it so much worse than you.
  • Make other people’s day: It is easier than you think. From random kinds of kindness to just being there for others when they need a boost will do wonders for the ones whom you are helping and your own self esteem.

 

  • Employ the Platinum Rule: I am sure you know the Golden Rule – treat others like you would be treated. Kick this up a notch or two. The Platinum Rule is treating others like they want to be treated. How do you know that other people like what you like? Is it not better to ponder how other people would like to be treated? Would this not make a much better first impression?

 

  • Play: Having genuine fun with others whether or not you are at home or at work is incredibly inspiring and uplifting. Ponder how you can generate a good solid mutual laugh with each other. Carry that out as much as your laughing muscles will bear it.
  • Be grateful: Gratitude is when you are truly humbled by the many gifted and talented people you get to meet on a daily basis. Gratitude is when you are truly grateful for your health, family, and friends. We have so much to be grateful for.
  • Share your talents: You impact more people than you think by what you do best. Share whatever talents you have and do it freely.
  • Volunteer: Let it be at school, church, hospitals, fire companies, local business associations, theater, special events, etc. Volunteering impacts the lives of many people and it feels great having made a difference for others.
  • Sleep: Huh? What does that have to do with being inspiring to others? That’s really simple: You had better sustain yourself and sleep as much as you can such that you have plenty of energy to expend.
  • Believe: Faith has a great impact on sustaining yourself. I find it all but impossible to be a fountain and not having a strong belief. Stock up on Faith and you will be inspiring to others and have the necessary integrity to do that for the long haul.
  • Ask what you may bring – not what you can get: In anything you do with and for others make sure you demonstrate your servitude attitude. Serving others is key to advance yourself. Yes, you serve the ones you may be in charge of. Be open, collaborative, inquisitive, and help break down barriers for the people whom you serve. Give and you shall be given.
  • Be grateful: Realize that what you believe is a mess maybe someone else’s nirvana. Be grateful for what you have. You need much less than what you may think. You have much more than you may realize. Gratefulness increases your peace of mind and a mind at ease is a much lesser burden on others.

Don’t be a drain like this woman (click to watch video). Fear, hatred, bitterness, too much ego drain your personality and reputation straight into the gutter. Sometimes it may be fun and also lucrative to let those bad feelings and thoughts direct you through the day. Ultimately, you allow those dark forces to lower, if not destroy your potential.

That’s when you see a fountain make sure to think of what you will do today to inspire others to also do their best in becoming one too.

Ralf

Focus on the boulders along the stream and you will surely hit them


Focus on the boulders along the stream and you will surely hit them Ralf a

Sounds counterintuitive but it makes sense: Picture yourself in a canoe going down a small stream and around a bend all of a sudden you see a bunch of boulders directly in your current path. You paddle like crazy and you focus all your attention on the boulders in trying avoiding them. Guess what? You just doomed yourself because you will surely hit them straight on anyway, because you trained your brain to lock in on the rocks – and not where you should have gone.

Anyone playing golf, soccer, football etc gets to use this concept. Getting the ball hitting the target works best when you imagine the ball in the place where it needs to go. Now reflect upon your social and work life. What and where are the boulders that you have your eyes set on? Do you want to hit them? Flip this around by pondering and imagining a desired and positive outcome for yourself. Voila! You have reset the clocks and can now tap into the power of intention.

Ralf

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