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Here is to you Class of 2017 – Please always chase a better self and live on purpose


Here is to you Class of 2017 – Please always chase a better self and live on purpose 

It is that time of the year: High school graduations are upon us. This one is really special to me because of two reasons. My daughter is one of the lucky high school students who will soon go out into the world and spreading her wings. The other special thing is a speech friend and coach Brett Blair (he is the author of From Autopilot to Authentic: How the Philosophies of Dr. Tom Hill Can Help You Live Your Exceptional Life) held for high school grads in Cary NC. He has allowed me to share his speech with you. There a many speeches held, but this one sticks out to me. The current generation may be making a mess of things right now, but you should really let Brett’s thoughts sink in about how you HS grads will now have the exciting chance helping make important changes for yourself and all of us. So I am asking you as well to please chase a better self and live on purpose – we live in a country that provides so many opportunities challenging to live to your full potential. Let your light shine and never relent. The best of luck to all of you. Here is to you, Katie. We gave you roots and also wings. It is time to spread them wide and take off like an eagle.

Ralf

 

 

Together is Beautiful – Continuing the Journey by Brett Blair

 

Hello graduating seniors. Congratulations! Congratulations to each and every one of you.

 

I, along with your parents, your teachers, the administration, the community, your friends and family, we all honor you.

 

We honor you, and you should be proud.

 

You have completed a significant milestone in your life, and one that will carry with you the rest of your life.

 

Your life.

 

It’s your life.

 

It’s no longer about your parents, your friends, or anyone else.

 

It’s your life that we’re talking about now, and it’s totally in your control.

 

As you venture forth into the world, after crossing that stage on Monday, June 12th, and finally picking up your diploma, you’ll be launched into a whole new journey.

 

For some of you, you’ll be going straight on to college.

 

Others will go to work, and start making some money.

 

Some of you will proudly serve our country in the military, others go to a trade school, community college, or maybe volunteer – here in the U.S. or abroad.

 

I’m guessing that you, the class of 2017, will probably scatter all over the country and maybe even the world.

 

After you graduate, a lot of things will be new and different for you.

 

Some things will be scary.

 

Some things will be fun.

 

One thing I’m sure most of you will experience is a new degree of freedom.

 

Many of you will be living away from home for the first time.

 

You’ll be going from the world of being a kid in your house to being an adult in the big, bad world.

 

You’ll have freedom. Freedom!

 

Freedom is a cool thing.

 

Our country’s fathers – you know their names – George Washington and crew, they fought hard for our freedom, and our military has fought found hard over the last 200 + years to keep it.

 

The Constitution and the Bill of Rights, these things spell out what our great freedoms are as Americans. We should never take these freedoms and these rights for granted, and never forget how blessed we are to live here in the U.S.

 

But there’s another kind of freedom. A freedom that is entirely up to you, and a freedom that you can lose if you don’t live your life in the right way.

 

It’s the freedom that comes from taking personal responsibility for your decisions, your choices, your actions, and overall the way in which you live your life.

 

Freedom! You have the freedom to choose a great career. I made a big mistake here. I originally chose a career based only on the money it would pay. I’ve since learned, and it took me a long time, like over 20 years, that it’s much better to choose a career that matches your passions and purpose and interests.

 

Freedom! You have the freedom to be healthy. Don’t take this for granted. This is almost totally in your control. It overwhelmingly comes from the foods you eat and the exercise you get. At your age, you might not think this is too important. I promise you, it will become very important as you get older. Most of the health problems we have in the US these days come from people with bad habits. People eating the wrong foods and people not getting the exercise they need. You have your full lives ahead of you. I dare you. I dare you to make a commitment to yourself to be super healthy, and then you’ll enjoy the excitement that can come from a life, a long life, based on great health.

 

Freedom! You have the freedom to stay out of debt. Develop good habits around money right now, stick to them, and be free of financial bondage later. If you get a credit card, pay it off every month. If you already have some credit card debt, pay it off as soon as you can. Don’t be like most Americans, with thousands of dollars of credit card debt that literally buries them. Learn about saving. Learn about the magic compounded interest, and learn about the value of long-term investing.

 

Freedom! You have the freedom to have great relationships. Great relationships with your family, with your friends, with your girlfriend/boyfriend/husband/wife, with your employer and coworkers, with just about anybody. The keys to great relationships are being honest and transparent, being present when you’re with people (instead of glued to your iPhone), being a great listener, and just being one who really cares about other people. Caring about people regardless of what they look like, where they come from, how much money they have, how smart they are – just caring about people because they are another human being.

 

Freedom! You have the freedom of living in a great country, and on a beautiful planet. I know that my generation has not done you any favors here, and we’ve left this world in trouble in many ways. Pollution, climate change, poverty, hunger, racism and social unrest, low rates of political participation, intolerance, the list of challenges goes on and on. But, I am confident and optimistic. I’m optimistic because you young men and women are incredible. You are smart and passionate and caring and live your lives on purpose, and with a purpose. I have no doubt that our future, the future of our planet and the future of all people will be better, much better, because of the impact that you’re going to make.

 

Freedom! You have the freedom to choose how you think. You can choose to wake up each day and live in fear and regret. You can do that. Or, you can wake up each day with confidence and optimism and energy. You can wake up, each day, eager to go forth and make your mark as you live your life on purpose, and make a difference. It’s up to, totally up to you.

 

10 years ago, when I was 46 years old, I quit a job, a career, that I had held for over 20 years. For somebody else, it might have been a great career. It just wasn’t the right one for me.

 

I then started my own business. I also hired a coach, a life coach, and this guy taught me a whole new way to live my life. He taught me to dream about my future, and to write it down in great detail. He taught me to get crystal clear on my priorities, and to live my life in a way that balanced my priorities. He taught me to commit to growth, and to grow until the day I die. I’m living my life that way now, and you know what? It’s awesome. If I could go back to the day I graduated from high school, and start living my life that way, living my life on purpose, I can’t image how much different, how much better my life would have been.

 

You, the class of 2017. You can live your lives on purpose.

 

You can live your lives in the direction of your passions and purposes and your dreams.

 

You can live your lives with abundant health – with energy and strength to lean into each and every day.

 

You can live your lives with amazing relationships all around you – an amazing spouse, amazing kids, amazing relationships with your parents, friends, neighbors.

 

You can have a great career or own your own great business, and smartly manage your money in a way that you never get into financial bondage that comes from having too much debt.

 

Living your life this way – living your life on purpose, it’s not the way most people live. That’s OK. A lot of people aren’t living their lives with the goals and determination and vision that you have. A lot of people are confused, and a lot of people are after instant gratification. You know, the best things in life – they take time, they take focus, they take determination, and they take discipline to get.

 

Personal discipline.

 

Personal discipline is the key.

 

Personal discipline leads to personal freedom.

 

Don’t be influenced by other people. Chart your own course, and stick to it. Be independent.

 

As Dr. Wayne Dyer says, be independent of the good and bad opinions of other people.
Have your own moral compass, your own north star, and live your life in that direction.

 

Live your life when you are all alone just like you would if other people were watching.

 

And something else I’ve learned along the way in my life – it is so much better when we all work together, and when we all get along. I think your generation has this figured out so much better than we did when I was growing up. Regardless of skin color, regardless of economic status, regardless of religion or political party or nationality or worldview – we all have the common denominator of being people. We are all people, created equal in the eyes of God, with unlimited potential. And when we lock arms and work together as people, working toward a better future, our potential is even more unlimited.

 

You guys are amazing. I’ve seen your passion and humility and courage and curiosity and love for each other. I’ve seen your intelligence and adaptability and determination. I’ve seen your faith and persistence and creativity.

 

I’ve seen you, I see you now, and I see you in the future.

 

I see you in the future, boldly making your mark on the world, and as a result, making this world a better place.

 

I know a lot of people who are really worried about the future, and think that the future will be worse, not better, than things are right now.

 

I totally disagree.

 

I believe in a better world.

 

I know we’ll move to the use of renewable energy.

 

 

I think we’ll solve the challenges around climate change.

 

I think we’ll eliminate many of today’s diseases and other health problems.

 

I think we’ll find new solutions to hunger and poverty and racism and inequality.

 

I might be naïve, but I don’t think so.

 

I think all these positive, optimistic things about the future for one reason. And, that one reason is YOU! Each and every one of YOU!

 

Personal discipline is cool. It leads to personal freedom. Personal freedom to live your lives in great big, happy, making a difference ways.

 

Thanks so much for giving me so many reasons to be optimistic, thanks for being an amazing group of young people who phenomenally represent Cary High School, and thanks for being you.
God Bless You, and may you venture forth and live the lives of your dreams.

 

Thanks!

Facing your greatest fear


Facing your greatest fear 

I used to not think twice about how I should confront my top fears. I though I had no choice. Fear was fear and I did not get close to them at all. Avoidance was my mode of operation – if you cannot change anything anyway, just avoid getting close. That is why it had not occurred to me that my primary top number one fear was my own shadow. I was afraid how powerful I could be and I did not let my own light shine sort of speak. I owe a lot of building up my strength to Marianne Williamson’s “Our Greatest Fear”. See what you think.

Ralf

 

Our Greatest Fear — Marianne Williamson

It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?

You are a child of God.

Your playing small does not serve the world.

There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear,
our presence automatically liberates others.

Are you in need of a little cheering up? Well, then check this list of quotes out


Are you in need of a little cheering up? Well, then check this list of quotes out 14600974_10210085495567574_3268930458795490311_n

Photo credit: Ralf Weiser, even as messy as ice rain can be, it can also be very beautiful

It’s getting dark early now and it is cold, windy, and damp outside. The Christmas season is supposed to fill us with joy and yet sometimes the opposite is true. Find a list that is supposed to make you think and appreciate what you have. Remember that while you may consider your life to be a mess – this maybe somebody’s nirvana because they have it so much worse than you do.

  1. Your shoes are the first thing people subconsciously notice about you. Wear nice shoes.
  2. If you sit for more than 11 hours a day, there’s a 50% chance you’ll die within the next 3 years
  3. There are at least 6 people in the world who look exactly like you. There’s a 9% chance that you’ll meet one of them in your lifetime.
  4. Sleeping without a pillow reduces back pain and keeps your spine stronger.
  5. A person’s height is determined by their father, and their weight is determined by their mother.
  6. If a part of your body “falls asleep”, you can almost always “wake it up” by shaking your head.
  7. There are three things the human brain cannot resist noticing – food, attractive people and danger
  8. Right-handed people tend to chew food on their right side
  9. Putting dry tea bags in gym bags or smelly shoes will absorb the unpleasant odor.
  10. According to Albert Einstein, if honey bees were to disappear from earth, humans would be dead within 4 years.
  11. There are so many kinds of apples, that if you ate a new one every day, it would take over 20 years to try them all.
  12. You can survive without eating for weeks, but you will only live 11 days without sleeping.
  13. People who laugh a lot are healthier than those who don’t.
  14. Laziness and inactivity kills just as many people as smoking.
  15. A human brain has a capacity to store 5 times as much information as Wikipedia
  16. Our brain uses the same amount of power as a 10-watt light bulb!!
  17. Our body gives enough heat in 30 minutes to boil 1.5 liters of water!!
  18. The Ovum egg is the largest cell and the sperm is the smallest cell(!).
  19. Stomach acid (conc. HCl) is strong enough to dissolve razor blades!!
  20. Take a 10-30 minute walk every day and while you walk, SMILE. It is the ultimate antidepressant.
  21. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
  22. When you wake up in the morning, pray to ask God’s guidance for your purpose, today.
  23. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
  24. Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat blueberries, broccoli, and almonds.
  25. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
  26. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip, energy vampires, issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
  27. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a college kid with a maxed out charge card.
  28. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
  29. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Forgive them for everything!
  30. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
  31. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
  32. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.
  33. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
  34. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
  35. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: ‘In five years, will this matter?’
  36. Help the needy, Be generous! Be a ‘Giver’ not a ‘Taker’
  37. What other people think of you is none of your business.
  38. Time heals everything – everything.
  39. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
  40. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
  41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
  42. Each night before you go to bed, pray to God and be thankful for what you’ll accomplish, today!
  43. Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.
  44. Common sense is not common practice.

Forward this to anyone you feel could use a little boost. Please send any of your favorite ones my way to include them in an upcoming blog post.

Ralf

How to be one of the cool people we admire: They do not care what other people think about them


How to be one of the cool people we admire: They do not care what other people think about them

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Photo credit: Ralf Weiser, Captain Sig Hansen in Bethlehem PA 2014

Admit it, people who know what they are doing and don’t care what other people think of them are just cool. They typically know what they stand for and have a list of goals that they are busy pursuing – and they are successful doing just that. Being good looking helps, but that is not necessarily a pre-requisite.

Take for instance the crew of the “Northwestern” from the TV reality show “Deadliest Catch”. Sig Hansen, his brother, and Jake (another crew member) were on tour in 2014 and I got the chance to see them in Bethlehem PA. Their antics were instant classics. Sig for instance threw out the water bottles put in front of them by the stage crew. He replaced it with a beer he had brought on stage with him from his room. He did not care that they were not supposed to do that. During the whole evening they acted out exactly like they were on the TV show. Him and the others did not care the least that they had hundreds of guests watching them.

So what makes them so different from us? Well, nothing at all. We all have the same potential as them. The only one difference is that they have not granted power to other people. Yeah, that’s right. That is the small but most important difference. They strongly believe that no one has power over them unless they let go of it to others.

Getting to know this principle is the easy part. How can they be so sure of themselves? That is the tough part. In order to gain self-confidence you have to spend quite a bit of time pondering your purpose. What legacy do you want to be known for? Where are you headed? Whom do you want in your life who can pursue your goals together with you?

That is why we admire other people: they are true to themselves. Good news is that we can all start in a moment’s notice. You’ve got to start though.

Ralf

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