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Find out how to avoid letting people get to you


Find out how to avoid letting people get to you 

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Stop letting people who do so little for you, control so much of your mind, feelings, and emotions. Easier said than done, right? The problem is actually not with the person you are having an issue with. It is your own thoughts that make your life miserable.

Friend Mary Lore @ManagingThought is a battle hardened thought leader on this subject. I am totally with her assertion that you are not your thoughts. A thought is only a thought and we can learn how to shape our thoughts so they work better for us. 

The process is surprisingly simple. If you are older then you may remember the Viewmaster kids toy that featured all sorts of discs with neat pictures on them. You inserted them into the main red body of the device. Then you pulled a lever to advance to the next picture while viewing them through the lenses while holding the whole thing facing a bright light source. The significance lies in likening the discs to your thoughts. When a thought does not work for you, take that mental disc out and put another one in that works better. This mental re-framing works really well. It rests on the premise that you actively choose whether or not you allow someone to have control over your thoughts and how you feel about this.

NO ONE has power over you – power is granted. When someone is making you mad or sad realize that they are not doing that, but you are. Next time you feel getting angry etc make sure to take a deep breath and take that bad mental Viewmaster disc right out and substitute it with one that works better for you.

Ralf

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I can’t hear you – your actions speak louder than words


I can’t hear you – your actions speak louder than words 

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What a double-edged sword this one is. There are only two ways to go about it, I think. On one hand there is not so much what you said but how you said it. If your content does not match your facial expressions, gestures and mimics than don’t be surprised if you’ll find yourself on a person to be avoided list. At a minimum you will be dealing with quite a few conflicts with people who just no longer know how to read you.

The other side of this medal is strictly that you can say what you want and how people understand you is yet another thing. And it does not even matter sometimes what you say and how, you just will never be understood – because the other person may not want to understand you. Prejudice and judgment are a 21st century infliction that probably has never been any worse in history. Social media is not improving this issue either.

The third blow comes in form of you saying one thing and your own actions differ from what you are asking other people to do or not to do. Busted! That is definitely the worst trustbuster. Read about DropBox’s CEO and how this issue snagged him.

How do you keep yourself out of trouble? Do not send out mixed body language messages and make sure your content is on target and professional. There is only so much you can do though. Be natural and honest – if some meanies still do not like you and keep misunderstanding you there is nothing you will be able to do about that. Be yourself. Period.

Ralf

The only way how to prevent personal burn out


The only way how to prevent personal burn out 

“I should”, “I have to”, “I must”, “others expect me to”, but “do I want to”? So goes the daily mental torture most of us are familiar with. There is a lot of pressure on us every day. We play a ton of different roles and the most powerful stress is the one we create ourselves. How alive are you to recognize this and actually do something about it?

Turn your “I should do’s” around by saying “I am doing”. It is a great stress buster and will enhance your quality of life greatly.

First and foremost though, you will have to take an honest inventory about your current state of your life. What are the aspects you really like and provide you with energy? What are the things you want to get away from?

Sort out all the experience and current roles that you may have but they really are not leading to mental peace. Stress occurs when you keep on doing stuff that may have been fun at the time and have been the reason why your career went skyward. That does not mean this is the stuff that you should continue doing.

Now the toughest part: It’s decision time. First do this exercise by yourself, but you will have to involve the people that mean the most to you soon thereafter. Then you need to convert your new plan into action: I am doing this! This is as scary as it is exhilarating.

Come up with a plan. You do not plan – you plan to fail. Put down a time frame by which you intend to have reached your new state. Work back in time and come up with benchmarks. Plan, do, review, and correct. Celebrate the little successes along the way. In around 18 months you will see an amazing climb and before you know it you are there: “I am doing this, because I want to!”

Ralf

8 strategies helping you become who you are meant to be


8 strategies helping you become who you are meant to be 

What is one thing that you wished you could do? Do it now! Prevent a lifetime worth of regret or would you rather like for your headstone to read “I only wished I could have spent another day at the office”?  The moment is here and now. There will never be another one like it because in a minute the moment will have passed and when it passes you will not be able to do anything about that any more. If your goal looks to big there are recipes around to fulfill your dream. Remember that no dream is too big and no niche / focus is small enough to pursue and make a success out of.

  1. Know yourself. What is your purpose and your Why? Write it down and refine continuously.
  2. Read like a fool about the topics that are associated with your passion and your purpose.
  3. Journal like crazy and review continuously.
  4. Plan your next steps 18 months out. Break them into smaller time increments. Deliver content and take action – even if you think you are not quite done yet. Remember that this is an evolutionary process and you will learn more as you go along.
  5. Voice your intent to friends and family – frequently.
  6. Never eat alone – meet with social and business friends and new contacts on a regular basis.
  7. Start a Mastermind Group: this is your inner circle of friends that mutually help each other reach their goals.
  8. Have fun during the process. The best is yet to come. Passion first, money second – it will come automatically.

Have fun and most importantly, start now!

Ralf

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