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It is not the critic who counts – just do the stuff you are meant to do


It is not the critic who counts – just do the stuff you are meant to do 

Someone whom I consider to be a good friend just shared the following quote from Teddy Roosevelt with me.

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

I read it once and made so much sense to me. I read it again right away as it pulled me right back in. I have tried homing in on the things that only I should be doing. I used to care a lot about what other people would say and I often tried appeasing them. It did not feel right not being all-inclusive with everyone. I had to learn a hard life lesson that I cannot always avoid folks not being happy with me. Do not misunderstand me here. I will always attempt first figuring out how I can make everyone better off with what I am doing. I will just no longer compromise on things when I know that there is a better possible outcome just because there are critics out there who will spend ample time pontificating about what could be done rather than starting to do something themselves. I am with President Roosevelt here. I would rather be the one whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood. I need to be part of the solution and not the problem.

Are you with me?

Ralf

Facing your greatest fear


Facing your greatest fear 

I used to not think twice about how I should confront my top fears. I though I had no choice. Fear was fear and I did not get close to them at all. Avoidance was my mode of operation – if you cannot change anything anyway, just avoid getting close. That is why it had not occurred to me that my primary top number one fear was my own shadow. I was afraid how powerful I could be and I did not let my own light shine sort of speak. I owe a lot of building up my strength to Marianne Williamson’s “Our Greatest Fear”. See what you think.

Ralf

 

Our Greatest Fear — Marianne Williamson

It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?

You are a child of God.

Your playing small does not serve the world.

There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear,
our presence automatically liberates others.

The exciting change away from B2B to H2H


The exciting change away from B2B to H2H 

I am totally stoked about this newest change away from the old ways. B2B, or Business to Business, is supposed to describe the almost clinical relationship between businesses while they interact. It fails to recognize that living and breathing folks perform all the necessary transactions. These people have dreams and they look to be inspired. In fact, the younger the workforce is getting, the more important purpose is. That also means that the organizational purpose is gaining importance.

Businesses do not do business with businesses. People do all of it. That is where H2H, or Human to Human enters the spotlight. The future is bright for business leader-managers realize that the central focus is not the organization or money. It is the human, the individual that buys the service and goods. It is people who help make and provide them. Money will follow this trail and the organization will grow – and it will do this all but automatically.

Look for organizations that foster a culture of collaboration and transparency. The ones that will put the individual and his / her competencies in the forefront will also make the customer better off. Work to live, do not live to work.

Ralf

One of the worst relationship busters – and it is not hatred


One of the worst relationship busters – and it is not hatred 

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You would think that the opposite of love is hatred. That is not it. It is contempt and indifference. Think about how this applies in your romantic and also work related relationships. The reason why contempt is such an effective relationship buster is because it is a slow and deceptive process that is barely recognizable. Along the way you tolerate the little things that we may not like about the partner. When then one partner tries changing the other this can easily derail the mutual respect. You can easily get wrapped up in starting to pursue different interests spending less time together. Our newest electronic devices (and thus vices) may additionally tax the attention span we may have for each other. Finally we may start criticizing the partner more often and at greater intensity. Contempt takes over our thinking process. After a while we may start feeling more and more disconnected and indifference and emotional distance set it.

Should this happen to you there is a key question to ask when a heated discussion ensues and you are no longer sure if your relationship is salvageable: “Now that our journey seems to be coming to an end, can you please tell me at what time I veered off course and what it was that I should have done differently.” When you listen (that means you need to listen to understand and not to respond) think on your feet and listen for new and old revelations that you could change or do immediately. Whatever your partner tells you is the roadmap of your possible path together again. Then share your side of the story. You need to just make sure that that is what you wanted in the first place. Also, keep focusing on why you fell in love with your significant other in the first place. In nine of ten cases that person is still there.

Ralf

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