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Fighting the status quo


If you always do what you always did, you are always going to get what you always got 

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You are in agony because you are not happy where you are in life. It may be comfortable, yet something is missing. Perhaps your social and work life is complicated and you are facing the dilemma of really rocking the boat if you start making changes. You are stuck between making a change and this could set off an avalanche of good, bad, or indifferent things and remaining the same and being miserable. During the day your thoughts may not cross the path of these issues, but at night you may not be able to sleep well because you cannot turn off your brain.

The reason why you are not sleeping well is most probably related to you not wanting to hurt people. The daily routine would be disturbed when you start being candid about what you really want to do and where you want to go. Your thoughts are mainly affected by what other people may think about you. In the end you rather put up with the pain in your brain rather than making going through the pain of changing.

Bottom line is that if you do not make a change, you will always get the same results and nothing will change – ever. Do not expect a different outcome when you do not change your approach and do not be disappointed. Change is easier to come by than you think though. This starts the moment that you decide to take action.

There are two basic approaches to handling a situation like this. For one you can apply the abrupt method that I would compare to taking a Band-Aid off with one swift motion. Sure, it will hurt a bit when you make drastic changes, but you are typically done relatively soon after the change. The other method, which I prefer is to slowly test the water and make gradual well planned changes. These will allow to plan, act, review, and re-adjust your path along the way. Planning the change is the most important part of this strategy. Break what you believe to be the big issue into more bite size chunks and see how you can implement them step by step.

The good thing about changing your status quo is not necessarily the actual impact the change has or achieving the final goal of it. Your even bigger reward is how you feel about having made the change in the first place. The path to your final goal is more important than your final goal by itself. Just realize that you have to start somewhere, otherwise you face a lifetime worth of regret. What is your first issue that you will tackle? Make a promise to yourself that you will choose fighting the status quo.

Ralf

 

1 easy step away going from hug to hope


1 easy step away going from hug to hope 

While in Manhattan NYC today we made a quick stop at the Starbucks near Union Square and one of the baristas took my breath away. She saw my daughter and I waiting in line for our food and drinks and I gave us a big smile. Then she gave us a huge hug (here is another worthy read about hugs). It was totally unprovoked, genuine and came from the bottom of her heart. I was so moved by this that my eyes started to leak a little. Here I was totally consumed with the many – too many – tasks and things to do and check off the list. Work, family, and so many other extra curricular activities had put me under a lot of stress. Success draws more and more attention and activities for sure. I just did not feel good about it at all today. And yet, this one hug pumped huge amounts of hope and energy back into me.

Despite all the political hubbub and also the many nasty things that happen every day we are a good People – there is hope and all we all need to do is showing a little of that to our fellow woman and man. Pay it forward and give someone a good old-fashioned hug. It can make a huge difference in someone’s life – it did for me. From bad day to hope that is all that it may take.

Ralf

How about recycling “thinking outside the box”?


How about recycling “thinking outside the box”? 

I do not know about you, but I am tired of hearing the term “think outside the box”. It is supposed to encourage abandoning old-fashioned and railroad track straight thinking. Instead the recipient of the tag line is encouraged using creativity in order to find new ways. Problem is that it is totally overused now.

The biggest problem I have with this concept is that I am to assume that there was a box in the first place. How dare we put ourselves into this metal box? I suggest we assume that there is no box. Rather than asking people to think outside the box, ask them better questions. Here are few that can help people use there God given creativity:

  • What will make everyone better off in our situation?
  • Where are we now?
  • Where do we want to go?
  • What is holding us back?
  • Who do we want to become?

Next time someone asks you to think outside the box, think of better fitting questions. Do not put yourself in a box where there was one in the first place.

Ralf

10 telltale signs that you are stressed out and a few way to bust stress


10 telltale signs that you are stressed out and a few way to bust stress 

Stress leads to all sorts of health problems and if at all possible we should avoid getting into stressful situations. Sometimes it is a little difficult to distinguish if and how much stress you are experiencing. I have a short list for you to enjoy, which will illustrates situations that were caused by too much stress. At the end of that list you can find a few ways reducing that stress.

You may be under too much stress, if:

  • you sit down at your desk and your colleagues give you a funny look. You were supposed to be off and you went to work anyway.
  • you drive “home” just to realize that you went to the house you used to own.
  • you put your trash out on a Sunday thinking it is Friday – the actual trash day.
  • you are halfway out the driveway on the way to work when you notice that the neighborhood is way too quiet. You find out it is Saturday.
  • you get off the airplane and your luggage does not arrive on the belt. You pay a ground support person $10 to check the aircraft and he appears with the suitcase. You rush out the airport as you need to catch a flight at the next terminal when you realize that you got off the airplane one stop too earlier and you should have gotten back on the same plane.
  • you rush through an airport and make a quick restroom pitstop. You sit down and look to the left and right and notice high heel shoes. You are a man.
  • you attempt punching in a telephone number into your computer’s keyboard and are unsuccessful in making a call.
  • you try making a phone call trying to key in the telephone number into calculator on your desk.
  • you go to the back to school night of your kids and you try remembering the school entrance door key code because you think you are at work and are now stumped that the code does not work.
  • you go back to the airport parking lot and have no idea what level you parked your car.

Funny, huh? Sadly enough these are my own real life examples of occurrences when my stress level was too high. Lesson learned was to keep slowing down and having enough down time once and a while. What really helps is exercising, sleeping long and well enough, hanging out with friends and family, and in general not taking yourself too seriously.

Ralf

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