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8 things helping enrich your life and that of the people in your life


8 things helping enrich your life and that of the people in your life 

We are blessed beyond measure with all the different people who come into our life. Keeping your talents to yourself is not only selfish, but you are wasting your life’s potential away. Even if you consider yourself to be an introvert, you still cannot ignore the fact that we humans are a very social bunch who managed to survive a lot better as a community. Singling yourself out is all but unnatural and most certainly will limit what life has got to offer for everyone of us. Here are 8 examples of how you can turn this situation around.

  • Be prudent with the time you spend at work. Have you ever seen a gravestone engraved with a sentence like this: “I wished I could have spent another hour at the office”? Try achieving a healthy work / family / social activity balance. Who needs you the most?
  • Go to your kid’s activities. Do not lead a life of regret. Kids grow up so fast that you will lose track of time in a heartbeat and before you know it they will be out of the house. Spend as much time with them and do not miss any of their school and leisure time activities. This time will never come back.
  • Travel as much as your budget and time will allow. The world is out there for us to experience. People and places are different from where you currently live and you only need to go a few miles for starters checking out a different county or state. Comparing and contrasting your life and environment add to the spice of life. You will see that we people are really not much different as far as our basic needs and aspirations are concerned. All the while nature, architecture, culture, food, work, etc can be dramatically different. Getting to know that there are more than one way to look at things helps build a mutual understanding and thus our tolerance for others goes up as well.
  • Volunteer your time and talents. Give without expecting anything back in return and you will be given and provided for beyond measure. Your gratitude and servitude will make others better off and you will feel great about yourself. Topping this list off is that you never know whom you will bump into who just may change your life forever.
  • Pay it forward and carry out random acts of kindness. Is it not sad if at the end of each day you have to admit to yourself that you have not been able to one kind thing for another person? Change this as fast as you can. You will feel great and you are giving someone reason for renewed hope. Don’t you like it when others recognize your existence?
  • Share your best skill or expertise with others. There is no excuse for you not to share your talents with others. Social media allow for you to do this with little to no cost. Local business associations, interest groups, Scouts, etc always look for people who can present on a relevant topic. Here is a chance for you to make provide information and training to others, you also raise your net worth with your employer. You brush up on presentation skills and at the same time people will always seek more of your advice.
  • Limit your time spent watching TV, computer, cell phone, etc. Much like the above comment about work here are just some of the many activities that your mind and life go into full blast inactive mode. They are a total waste of time. Read a book, take a walk, but for heaven’s sake do not let your life go into idle mode.
  • Be physically active. An idle mind is the devil’s workshop. Physically, there is a similar issue. We sit and rest way too much. Get up and get going, join a gym, participate in physical activity opportunities at work. Getting the bad juices out your system by exercising is a terrific stress and depression buster.

We are blessed beyond measure living in a country full of helpful people and organizations. You have no one but yourself in your way to grow socially and professionally. Here is my call to action for you to live to your full potential – all you have to do is to give your talents to others.

Ralf

Work on your business and not in it


Work on your business and not in it 

Are you in busyness or business? To do lists will survive us. Your purpose and enthusiasm for your business may not. Seriously, your own and your company’s why is the only reason you exist. Unfortunately, our day-to-day hustle-bustle activities very often prevent us looking up and actually be working on ourselves and our organizations.

In the event we do not make time for connecting with our purpose, it will catch up with us. On a personal level we may experience burn out or perhaps even a midlife crisis. Organizations may grow in spite of themselves but employee turnover may increase and the overall morale may deteriorate so much that customers start leaving eventually.

This craziness can be stopped. First you need to stop yourself from constantly putting out the “fires” around you. Some folks have gotten so good at that that they resort to creating their own fires that they then must put out. Are you sick and tired of constantly making decisions for even the most mundane tasks? It is time to make room in your calendar for pondering the following questions:

  • What would happen to me and my organization if nothing changes during the next 12 months?
  • What will the consequences be?
  • Where would I like my organization (department, etc) and myself to be in 12 to 36 months?
  • What will keep me from getting there?
  • What gives me energy?

Now compare and contrast your answers. The toughest part – the start of your new journey – has been done. Following up with the resulting tasks consistently and frequently is your next big priority.

Do you think you do not have time to plan? Realize that you get what you tolerate and you spend 80% of your valuable time in fire fighting mode based on only 20% of the problems that exist in your organization instead of putting all your oomph into proactively mapping out your future. It’s all about prioritizing everything you do. Do you still think that you do not have time for this? Imagine that you hurt yourself and need to see a doctor really quick. You did not plan for this and yet you are finding the time anyway. You will make time for taking care of your health, right? Elevate your why and a plan how to get to fulfill it to that kind of a priority and watch tremendous growth start right before your eyes.

Ralf

Life’s challenges are the pathway to greatness


Life’s challenges are the pathway to greatness pablo-2

Photo credit: Pablo by Buffer

Last night I attended the graduation of close to 40 youth from the City of Coatesville area who participated in the work outplacement program by the Coatesville Youth Initiative. It was amazing to see so many young people apply for this summer job and rising to so many challenges. It was humbling to see how much they grew throughout their 8-week journey ranging from helping with community service projects to carrying out their at times rigid work routine. Most of all I will remember their smiles – they mustered their challenges and they did it with a smile.

Their happiness was so contagious and that made me wonder about the really happy adult folks. Do you catch yourself envying perpetually happy and content folks? They seem to have it totally together no matter what happens to them. They are engaged, motivated, and optimistic even under the most difficult conditions. How can this be?

Success like this leaves traces and all you have to do is following it. Make the investment and take a look the list below and also study people who already seem to have earned their black belt in unwarranted optimism.

  1. Optimism is a choice. Yeah, I know. Many self-help gurus preach and teach about that and each one typically offers a solution that can be bought at a nominal amount, of course. Here it is simply pondering what options there are and then to simply engaging in it.
  2. No one has the power to take that choice away from you. That should make you feel better already. NO ONE owns your choices and only you know what you know.
  3. It’s not a failure; it’s a success that has not happened yet. Mental reframing of the challenges ahead of you is key to staying optimistic. This is not some hokey advice, but the open invitation to shy away from seeing problems rather than opportunities right from the get go.
  4. It’s not whom you know, it’s who knows you. It helps when you have friends who know you, what you are all about, and what you aspire to become. A small yet very important difference. People who know you and your goals can create predictable miracles for you and you need not do a thing. Cool stuff!
  5. A smile and a little laughter will carry you and others through the day. Pay attention to when you make the effort of smiling when you interact with people. Don’t they appear to be much friendlier too and are they not much more leaning toward helping you?
  6. No matter how bad things are for you, they can be worse. Don’t believe me here? Go to e.g. a children’s hospital like CHOP in Philly and meet with kids who have cancer. If you have not seen optimism and hope in action, this should do it.
  7. Never fight with issues on your own. Seek community. Shared sorrow is half the sorrow. You are never really alone and this is not the time or place to become a martyr for your cause.
  8. Most human issues have been around forever. There have got to be solutions around. Ask friends and acquaintances, as well as engaging the Internet to look for suitable help.
  9. Answer the following question: will I still be thinking about the issue I am facing now in 2 years? Do not take yourself too seriously, period. A balanced life is so much more important than losing your hair and sleep over it. Do not be complacent either though; retain your sense of urgency and integrity and act on the future as it emerges.
  10. If it was easy, someone else would do it. The only people who usually do not believe you are managers with a low self-awareness and sense of being your quarterback first.
  11. Most issues are related to lack or inaccurate communication. That is something you can affect. Be the one who makes the effort to ask for clarity first.
  12. The vast majority of issues go away the faster you address them at the root. Speed rules in fighting issues. Ounces worth of prevention reap tons of rewards later in time, nerves / morale saved, and of course, money.

Make the effort looking into the mirror every day and making the commitment to really liking what you see when you stare at yourself. Be amazed how much this practice can change your outlook in life. Then fire off one or more of the dozen tips from above and see what happens.

Ralf

How do we sense this? Hidden expression of power


How do we sense this? Hidden expression of power Puzzled

A while back I got a call from a good friend of mine. We talked about the things we would like to achieve next – our life goals. I was not so sure that could pull it off when she shared with me that she thought that I could do anything I would set my mind to: “The very first time I met you, I could sense that you have an unbelievable power and force.” For starters, I was very thankful for her kicking me in the rear for doubting myself. After all, believing in yourself and realizing your full potential is what I believe in and it is something that I am trying to let others ponder too.

More profound though, I was taken aback about the mere fact that someone could sense power and / or force. Huh? How in the world does this work? I thought about the many people I am blessed to meet. Very often I can sense that there is something special about them. I catch myself thinking that I should really make an effort to paying attention to what they have got to say. There may be a certain calmness that “oozes” out of them. They may share a sense of substance and competence without as much as saying a word.

So here is the puzzler part for you: How do you tell that someone has these powerful attributes? Is there something physical that you can pick up on? Is it something they say? Is it how they say it? What makes you want to hang out with them? What are the non-verbal clues that you can sense?

I would love to hear back from you. If for nothing else I would like for you paying attention to what your thoughts are next time you meet such a special person.

Ralf

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