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How to focus using the prism effect


How to focus using the prism effect 

Prisms help gather and concentrate light to a single point. Then the light spreads out again. The same prism effect can happen to people who want to develop themselves.

I our noisy world it is easy to get side tracked and off course to what life could and should be. The situation improves the moment you stop and ponder your purpose and how you can get there. Starting point is the vision of where you want to go with it.

That is the focal point of the prism I am talking about. Focus. Shrinking it down to the one thing you are meant to become and refining that is tough work and may take months and perhaps even years. In this process you are sorting out all the bunny trails that may be fun but do not lead to where you want to go. Focus. There are dead ends, there are detours, there is a ton of chatter along the way, there will be nothing but distractions (just think electronics for a sec), and there are your roles in family, work and social life that can easily side track you. Again: Focus!

Once you have this laser like focus and you have eliminated your distractions you will get to experience the prism effect. When you are living and working from a true state of being you exude it in everything you do. People will all of a sudden pay attention to you.

Here is the prism effect in prose:

It makes you much more effective at work and with all your other activities.

It lets you become a valued resource to others in life.

It gives you self-sustaining energy without stress.

It lays the foundation for synchronicity to occur.

It makes sense to others what you say and do.

It provides direction for you and others.

It lets you connect with more people.

It tells people where you stand.

It builds self-confidence.

It builds sex appeal.

It builds trust.

It’s YOU!

FOCUS*

Skills

Roles

Chatter

Confusion

Experience

Career choices

Wishful thinking

Culture and language

Clubbing and partying excessively

Electronics –TV – Internet – Social media

* It concentrates your life and energy; it helps you illuminating others

If you want to change course in life the most successful way is to slow down and focus on the one thing that describes your purpose best. Do not take my word for it though; try it yourself and be just as fascinated when you discover the power that lies within you.

Ralf

One of the worst relationship busters – and it is not hatred


One of the worst relationship busters – and it is not hatred 

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You would think that the opposite of love is hatred. That is not it. It is contempt and indifference. Think about how this applies in your romantic and also work related relationships. The reason why contempt is such an effective relationship buster is because it is a slow and deceptive process that is barely recognizable. Along the way you tolerate the little things that we may not like about the partner. When then one partner tries changing the other this can easily derail the mutual respect. You can easily get wrapped up in starting to pursue different interests spending less time together. Our newest electronic devices (and thus vices) may additionally tax the attention span we may have for each other. Finally we may start criticizing the partner more often and at greater intensity. Contempt takes over our thinking process. After a while we may start feeling more and more disconnected and indifference and emotional distance set it.

Should this happen to you there is a key question to ask when a heated discussion ensues and you are no longer sure if your relationship is salvageable: “Now that our journey seems to be coming to an end, can you please tell me at what time I veered off course and what it was that I should have done differently.” When you listen (that means you need to listen to understand and not to respond) think on your feet and listen for new and old revelations that you could change or do immediately. Whatever your partner tells you is the roadmap of your possible path together again. Then share your side of the story. You need to just make sure that that is what you wanted in the first place. Also, keep focusing on why you fell in love with your significant other in the first place. In nine of ten cases that person is still there.

Ralf

8 key characteristics of great conscious leaders


8 key characteristics of great conscious leaders 

Entrepreneurship and leadership are fun, but they also can be a huge challenge. How do you grow your business in a way that is long term sustainable whilst also rendering enough profits such that you can invest in your people and infrastructure? How do you do this without totally giving your own life up because you have to work exorbitant hours? How will your family see you again and how will you manage stress to a manageable level?

Chances are that you have asked yourself these questions over and over again. Regardless whether you are the key leader in a small business or are the CEO of a large corporation the questions are typically very similar. Fortunately, the answers are amazingly simple as well. Key question here is only how comfortable you are to commit yourself to opening your organization up to an open platform. The more you are ready to open up to true collaboration the greater the chance that you will soon enjoy your co-leaders and employees becoming your co-entrepreneurs.

What I am inferring here is that you have the opportunity developing your own brand that can become self-sustainable. This allows you to focus on planning the future development of your organization without you having to worry about that the day-to-day operation goes awry without you being there. It helps reducing your stress and that of everyone in your organization.

  1. Start with a quality product of service: Absolute important is having a quality product and/ or service to start with. Do not get this wrong and mixed up with clever or really unique. Excellent execution of what you have to offer to customers is essential in making sure that there is long term sustainability for your organization.
  2. Ego management: Skip this blog if you are not willing to of your ego. Long term sustainability can only happen when you as the leader are willing to not be the only one who speaks, directs, manages, generates ideas, etc. Egomaniacs make for miserable working conditions and no one needs another toxic work place.
  3. Safe working place: This is more than the physical safety at work. I am speaking about candor. Candor is the best antidote to your ego and that of others. Only when it is safe to speak about your company’s challenges will you get to the bottom of what your folks will need to fix.
  4. Communication management: Great conscious leaders make a huge commitment to open communication. Department meetings held regularly and also allowing for your managers meeting with their team members one on one regularly will provide ample information about where and how your organization and people need help. If you are really good, you will hold weekly company meetings where everybody can get a pulse of the organization and where their contributions make a difference.
  5. Collaboration heaven: Collaboration amongst your leadership team is just as important as allowing for this to happen with your customers and all of your employees. How else can you tap into the brain power and creativity of the people who do the front line work every day? Create a conduit and place where this information exchange can happen at strategic and tactical level, step back, and be ready to be amazed what your folks can help create.
  6. Servitude: This point of course assumes that you have made it beyond point 2. above. Really great leaders realize that they need to view their role as the one who serves the folks who work for them. That does not means that leaders must do the work of the people reporting to them. What is more important than anything else here is that the team members feel respected, are taking seriously, and that their contributions count. Helping develop your employees by helping them excel increases the trust in you and the company and makes for very loyal followers – team members and customers alike.
  7. Showing up: Great leaders have another thing in common. They keep showing up for not only the fun stuff, but especially for any of the tough occasions too.
  8. Commitment management: First and foremost that is your commitment to invest all your efforts to make the changes happening that your team members helped develop. That fosters even more trust and ensures your organization making a lot of progress. Once your team knows that when they come together and help co-create their future with you and you deliver the commitment allowing for continual improvement to occur, you will enjoy success almost guaranteed.

This is not an easy road to travel and definitely not a fast one. It represents a cultural change and those typically take a few years to fully come around to full fruition. If you expect your people to change, make sure asking yourself first how you must change. Invite your team members – and I mean all of them – to help collaborate about if and how / what kind of changes need to be made in order to serve your organization’s purpose (your “why”). Then leave them be, check your ego at the front door and be ready to be amazed how many people step forward with the desire helping to achieve your growth goals.

Ralf Weiser

There is no excuse for not going out to travel the world


There is no excuse for not going out to travel the world 

Photo credit: Ralf Weiser

Well, even if it is not the world that you want to see, at least get out of your state. Still not comfortable with that? Can you make this getting out of your home county? Pretty please? Traveling places and getting out of your comfort zone has so many mutual benefits. It helps you relax and see how other people do some of the same stuff you are doing – just differently. It helps benefit tolerance and back at home and work it creates a sense of appreciation of what you do.

Many a times I hear that people do not set their sails because they are afraid of not knowing how they should prepare for being on the road. In essence they are afraid that they are getting lost and that they would rather travel when they are much older so that they can take guided tours. Huh? What on Earth are they really afraid of?

I could perhaps understand when people are apprehensive of traveling overseas. Not being able to understand another language can be difficult, I give you that. One thing that we humans do well though is recognizing patterns and using visual and any or all of our senses. Here is a recent example of using the railroad in Germany. Even if you do not speak or read one word of German you can still figure out which train, car, and seat you have.

This first picture shows the reservation. It gives you the train number ICE842 (Inter City Express) and the time it is scheduled to depart at Berlin at 19.49 (that is 7.49pm for us). Gleis means track and here it is number 4. All it takes is asking someone from the helpful and countless railroad folks at the station and you will get to what you need to know. This also says something about a Reservierung. I had reserved two second class seats (the web site www,db.de also fully supports English). So 2 Pl are my 2 seats in Wg for wagon or car 22 and sitting in 25 and 27.

So once you reach track 4 you will see huge announcement boards like this one. You recognize the train number and departure time. Notice the letters A through G? Those are the zones in which the track is divided. You cannot miss the huge letter signs along the track. The little symbol below the letters represents the train and where it will come to a stop. The knife and fork symbol stands for the restaurant car and the 1s and 2s stand for first and second class cars. Now I know that I had better queue up in either zone F or G.

As the train pulls in each car features a sign on its side that shows the train number ICE842 and to its right is the car number. Here it is 23 and so I had to go back one more car. This also shows the place the train starts from, the stops it will make, and also the final destination.

 

 

Getting into the car now I start looking for the seat numbers right over top the seats near the luggage rack. That is kind of like getting on to a plane. The neat thing here is that you can tell if the seats are reserved when the signs like this photo show are lit up indicating starting and ending destination. Any seats not occupied are on a first come first taken basis. Once the conductor checks your tickets (Deutsche Bahn even has an awesome App for this) and you are getting close to the final destination the signs disappear magically.

There is even free Wifi on the train and most of the time you will be zooming through the super nice country side with more than 120mph. ICE trains make very few stops and with the proper discount cards renting and driving a car is not worth it from a time and monetary point of view. Sure, there are a few moments when I initially did not know exactly what to do. I will never forget the disbelieving look from a fellow travel when he had to explain how the seat reservation sign worked in the car. Those moments come and go. They can and should not prevent you from going on the road. There is not even a language barrier when you travel into another county or state (well, there may be another dialect). Look for the patterns that emerge and make sure you travel your heart out.

Ralf

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