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It is not the critic who counts – just do the stuff you are meant to do


It is not the critic who counts – just do the stuff you are meant to do 

Someone whom I consider to be a good friend just shared the following quote from Teddy Roosevelt with me.

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

I read it once and made so much sense to me. I read it again right away as it pulled me right back in. I have tried homing in on the things that only I should be doing. I used to care a lot about what other people would say and I often tried appeasing them. It did not feel right not being all-inclusive with everyone. I had to learn a hard life lesson that I cannot always avoid folks not being happy with me. Do not misunderstand me here. I will always attempt first figuring out how I can make everyone better off with what I am doing. I will just no longer compromise on things when I know that there is a better possible outcome just because there are critics out there who will spend ample time pontificating about what could be done rather than starting to do something themselves. I am with President Roosevelt here. I would rather be the one whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood. I need to be part of the solution and not the problem.

Are you with me?

Ralf

The one who rest, rusts or how running away from a tough choice is not a good idea


The one who rest, rusts or how running away from a tough choice is not a good idea 

Life is pretty much like a tread mill: Even though it is exhausting to be on it, you really have no other choice than to keep running once you are on it. No matter how fast you are running you are not really getting any farther – you are stuck in many ways. The final lap is only coming around when our life ends. Not very uplifting, huh?

There are good portions to this as well though. It’s your choice to get on or not; if you do not like the current treadmill version you are on then get OFF of it! Upon getting on another one, what speed will you pick? Will you pick an incline once and a while? For how long will you exercise away at it? What is the sense of it in the first place? When will you get off it? Will you jump off or slow down little by little? Why can you not apply what you know and build a completely different version of a treadmill? Tough choices are part of life and giving up because they are difficult to make are simply a fact of life. Get used to having to choose and do not give up because you feel like you are not fit enough to deal with some of the consequences.

Like it or not, if you are on it just to go into idle mode, you will never really get anywhere. Exercising your body will push your soul besides of building up your stamina. Isn’t that why we are made to keep in motion and be in good shape (mental jogging included)? You have to make a few hard decisions about all the aspects of your life. Choose mental toughness and building up your endurance by exercising. The one who rests, rusts.

Ralf

Cell phone on – world around you off


Cell phone on – world around you off 

Photo credit: Pablo by Buffer

I think we are all losing it. We are all on cell phone crack. “We” meaning the people who own a smart phone. Just last week I went to a Cub Scout ceremony where even parents missed their own children’s awards while they were checking out their social media stuff on their cell phones. It does not matter where you are this issue of us tuning the world around us off is rampant. From family outings when the phones are going around the table with funny or bizarre Youtube stuff being shown to going to restaurants and no one talks anymore because everyone (including the kids) is glued to their little screens. No one is safe. The little device seems to dictate when we pick it up and pay attention to it rather than the world that surrounds us.

This has got to stop. We are losing our connection to our worlds by being connected to it only electronically. What can we do?

  • For one we can turn most push notifications and dingers and ringers off. We need to make the decision to look at the device – it should not be the device telling us that.
  • Declare a cell free zone when we sit together at the table. At the restaurant switch them off and put them in the center of the table. Same for meals shared at home.
  • Do not put the device in your bedroom. If for nothing else do not put it on your nightstand. Give yourself some space from being connected 24/7.
  • Declare a cell phone free time during the day. For two to three hours just leave the phone function on, but nothing else.

I am not sure that we can speak of a medical condition as far as us being addicted to those mystical devices – yet. We are losing a bit of our human touch if we not at least curb the constant connection to the world and yet we may lose the connection to the people who mean the most to us.

Ralf

Never mistake having a list with leading a life on purpose


Never mistake having a list with leading a life on purpose 

Photo credit: Pablo by Buffer

Being productive and doing as much stuff as possible is important in our work life. This race for more, faster, better, etc starts as early in school. We are groomed to get stuff done. Doing is more important than being. Or is it?

Problem is that working your bum off and getting stuff done can easily distract you from realizing what is truly important to you. Years can go by and you can easily go head on into a midlife crisis.

So periodically stop what you are doing for a moment and ask yourself that if what you are doing is truly filling you with energy for a long time to come.

Ralf

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