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7 steps that help turn fear into courage


7 steps that help turn fear into courage 

The most often overlooked thing is that there is a tipping point just before you become courageous. Prior to that point you are not committed to do anything yet. This stage is very unsettling and does not feel good at all. Question is if and when you will make the decision to do move forward and fully engage.

No wonder that this time frame of uncertainty feels uncomfortable. Courage is the ability to confront pain, intimidation, fear, uncertainty, danger, etc. In most cases you risk your health, reputation, status, or economic well-being. They are all not pleasant things when they go wrong.

The bizarre thing is that once the action has started our oldest part of our brain   kicks in and protects us. This “lizard” brain tries protecting us from harm when we are threatened; it works like cruise control once the adrenalin is pumped into the blood stream. The ensuing action may take hours that will fly right by without noticing. What we will vividly remember the most is the time leading up to the tipping point.

Here a few mental concepts that may help you get over this hump of a tipping point:

  1. Think of all the people whom you may be able to help by standing up for what you believe.
  2. Ponder how much time you spend from realizing the need for action and doing something about it. I mean that you need to study actual versus estimated time. The time we think it takes making up our mind typically differs with the real world. Our brain tries playing tricks on us and typically we think it takes longer than it does.
  3. Realize that most famously courageous people did not intend to be famous or courageous – it just happened to them and they made the best out of it.
  4. Take deep breaths. Think about the fact that you are ok for the moment. The future has not happened yet, so do not worry about it. Anxiety is not your friend today.
  5. Seek friendship and companionship. Going through unsettling times together with someone else helps coping with tough situations.
  6. Think of the rewards. The biggest deal is not having to live a life of regret. Nothing is worse than not doing something that later on you wish you had.
  7. Realize that other people look up to you. You may not know a lot of people that pay attention to what you do and what you have to say. Choose to inspire.

Much like the pirates of the old days, we must put the saber into our mouths and fully engage our fear first and then the enemy. Your stomach may be churning at first, but what are you really afraid of? Walking away from a challenge may let you live a life of regret. Do you want to choose that?

Ralf

How to turn problems into career advancement


How to turn problems into career advancement 

Tired of all the folks around you who gripe a lot and can point out issues even on a good day? The vast majority of employees can isolate issues and talk about them all day long. Only a few can actually kick this up a notch and provide possible solutions and even implement them.

Problem is that this can turn out to be a really bad career buster. Leader-managers look for people who can take work off of their busy schedules. Funny thing with problems is that they are typically no secret and only the densest of us cannot see them. Mentioning and listing them over and over again does not solve anything.
Worse yet, it kills morale. The complainer turns out to be the problem. Great, more work for the leader-manager. Not.

Interested in turning this dynamic around? Here a few easy steps that help you fix issues and help kick your career up a notch.

  1. When you see a problem that is really annoying you resist the urge to vent. Griping to the wrong person may land you in the HR office. Your co-workers and team members will start avoiding you; you can easily turn into a time and energy sink. Take a quick walk through the company. It helps mind and body.
  2. Refrain from excessively combatting bad ideas or concepts. No worries, bad ideas are never long term sustainable. Do not waste your nerves on this process. Keep focused on bringing forth good ideas.
  3. Focus your attention on 1 problem. The problem needs to relate to the root cause – not symptoms. If you address symptoms you will experience scope creep and that is a lot more work that way and highly ineffective.
  4. Think of 2 to 3 possible solutions. Make number one the one that you really would like to do. The second one that you could still live with, and number three if you had to. Go to your supervisor and propose it.
  5. Experiment with your solutions. Success breeds success. It also builds your skill set. Invaluable and it will not go unnoticed. If for nothing else, it makes you more valuable to the organization. That is a really good thing when the economy is not doing well.
  6. Make sure that you keep doing the above over and over again.

Rather ask for forgiveness than ask for permission when you look and experiment with your solutions. Any mature leader-manager will leave you alone and appreciate the self-sufficient work that you did. It is a win-win situation all the way around. The problem is getting solved, you build a sustainable career, morale stays high, and the company will do better because customers get more value. Griping builds a speedpass lane to the exit. It’s your choice.

 

Ralf

How to create action in people – a simple and effective recipe


How to create action in people – a simple and effective recipe 

Photo credit; Pablo by Buffer

There is a simple formula for creating action in people. It goes like this: Thoughts create feelings; feelings create action.

In our noisy world it is getting more and more difficult for people to pay attention to anything. This is true in business as it is in almost any social setting. Even our families are not safe from this phenomenon.

Here is your opportunity to increase your chances for people to hear your message and actually do something about it. Think about how you can use a compelling story to invoke strong thoughts in your listeners. The best is to wear your heart on your sleeve. Give of yourself to the audience, be vulnerable, show your imperfections, and share how you learned your lessons the hard way.

This sets the stage for folks to be able to relate to you. Emotions ensue. Do not forget your call to action. Perhaps that is the most important detail that often gets overlooked. Make sure to voice your expectations and actions to the audience.

Deliver on your promises and repeat this cycle time and again. It does take a little extra work in preparing for any thought invoking work. But the moment you have managed building a routine out of this principle, you will be able to make major changes for yourself and others.

Ralf

10 ways of how can you become a person other people look up to


10 ways of how can you become a person other people look up to 

How many people do you hold dear because you look up to them? I call them illuminators. They do selfless things and see to have it together. People are drawn to them; they are very inspiring.

Now look at how many people you know that just seem to vegetate – they just exist and try making it through another day. Often, they are demotivated, anxious and outright unfocused. They can drain your energy right out of you.

Have you ever noticed how many more of the negative people there are compared to the inspiring ones? I hold the belief that there is a sacred ratio of illuminators versus negative people. Fortunately, it takes a lot fewer really positive people to inspire the rest of us.

Guess what, you may be a lot closer to being a illuminator than you thought. Just look at the list below that gives you a few criteria of really positive people:

  • You have a positive attitude towards life.
  • You say what you do, and you do what you say.
  • You protect other people that cannot fend for themselves.
  • You know how to serve other people.
  • You do things for others without expecting anything in return.
  • You have focus because you know your purpose and limitations.
  • You smile – even if the situation you are in may not be anything to smile about.
  • You are honest.
  • You are sincere.
  • You are in the moment with the people that you are surrounded with.
  • You ______ (Please share items that would extend this list in the comment field below.

There are so many illuminators around us that help us keep our mental balance. They inspire us to do the right thing. They let us never lose hope. We cannot ever give up on ourselves and others.

Please do your best and give your own snow globe a little stir and ponder how little it takes to become an illuminator yourself. Join the tribe! I would love nothing more than for you to share my post with your friends and letting them sign up. Just follow the link at the right side of the blog site.

Ralf

 

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