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5 ways of being better about being in the moment

5 ways of being better about being in the moment 

Social media are great. I just love using all sorts of platforms as they have really enriched my life and I can get and stay in touch with so many old and new friends. And then again, nothing beats a great warm hug – person to person. One thing that social media has not been able to do is to genuinely connect us humans the same way as sharing a moment together in person. So how do you balance the two?

The answer is surprisingly simple. Use social media and all its bounty to the fullest. At the same time scan for opportunities where you can connect with folks at a deeper level. Seek face-to-face meeting time wherever and whenever you can. Do not be afraid of personal contact like a hug either. Here are some examples where personal connection can foster a much brighter future:

  1. Moments of collaborating genius: No matter where you meet, there are tremendous opportunities getting to know new people, and / or meeting folks at a completely different level.
  2. Major disagreement: Using texts and e-mails when you are upset are mind-numbingly ineffective. Get up and meet in person.
  3. Friends in need: This is the positive version to number 3. When friends are in dire need of help, meet in person. Flush out the real back ground of the issues. Your active listening may lead to finding a solution, and you earn respect and trust.
  4. Meeting your future significant other: You may be able finding your mate online, but you had better eventually meet in person sooner rather than later.
  5. Funerals: Filled with emotions they can be really tough. As tough as it is, try making a genuine new connection or rekindle an oldvvvv one.
  6. What are your greatest moments of meeting with folks in person? Please share in the comment section.

Don’t get me wrong, I just love connect over the Internet and use whatever new tools come our way enhancing my relationships and helping other folks wherever I can. At the end of the day, I still make sure that I go out into our interesting world seeking personal contact. A truly genuine moment between two or more people can still take our breath away, and it will be with us forever. I’ll give you a hug before you can get out your smart phone…


Technology connected the world and disconnected us people

Technology connected the world and disconnected us people 

It’s just sad. No matter where I look here we are glued to our smart phones. Most of us even have two phones; one for work and the other one for ourselves. At the gym men and women “resting” on just about any machine that has a seat while they are checking their phones usually interrupt my regular routine. Come dinnertime – actually any mealtime – I see many a family staring at their little screens. They are not talking to each other though. People walk into light poles or walls because they are totally engulfed in whatever they are doing online while walking. Then there are the many folks who must check their latest texts while driving.

Fabulous technology has shrunk the world and connected us 24/7 helping level the playing field for any small entrepreneur. Yet, it has managed disconnecting us as people, friends, and family. There a few ways that help avoid turning into a cell phone zombie:

  1. When you are at a restaurant ask everyone to put his or her mobile device in the middle of the table. Let everyone switch it off. Radical? Certainly. Effective? Absolutely.
  2. Put your mobile device as far away as possible from your bed and side table. You just do not want to be tempted to look at the screen time and again. You will not get to sleep soon enough. Give yourself a rest.
  3. While driving do not use that phone. Instead, set your phone to do not disturb while driving. It blocks all notifications, etc and provides peace of mind without any distraction.
  4. While working out at the gym listen to your favorite tunes. And then get on with your workout. It is really that simple. I know that you can say that you have been to the gym without turning red even though for the better portion of your workout you have simply been sitting around. Instead get going and just put in the work into “workout”.

Embrace technology to the fullest and at the same time also know well when to turn it off. Make sure you reconnect with the people that mean the most to you. Do that by giving them the most meaningful gift you can give to anyone: your presence.


4 golden rules of networking

4 golden rules of networking 

There are still some sales folks around who will explosion vomit their solutions all over their potential customers followed immediately by asking for more business. Wow. Good luck with that approach. Relationships are earned – there are not owed to you.

Patience, value creating, and competency are needed in copious amounts in order for you to be offered an open ear. Only then can any solid relationship happen. Just slipping your business card quickly into people’s hands during your first encounter – especially C level folks – is usually a waste of time. Networking events are for providing value and for connecting people of value to others. Here are four things to consider when networking:

  • Be prepared to add value to your new contact. This is by far the most important point in any networking activity. If you have nothing to add to any new relationship then don’t wonder why your circle of relationships does not increase. Remember that it is not important whom you know, it is more important who knows and remembers you.
  • Willingness to give before asking for anything. Honestly, do you really think that asking for favors the first time you meet someone will get you anywhere? You may luck out guilt tripping someone into giving you something, but is that sustainable in the long run? Approaching anyone with an open heart, soul, and your intellect / mind and making sure that you are willing to give your talents away helping someone else is the best way to start your networking process.
  • Invest your time smartly – but please make sure that you do spend time with your newfound friend. Only when you get to spend some significant quality time together will you really get to appreciate new folks and old alike. When people see and get to experience first-hand that you are the real deal you make a deeper connection that is trust based. That is the essence of relationship building.
  • Make sure you are genuine and sincere. Be genuinely compassionate with everybody. Compassion means that you are suffering with someone else. That is what it is all about. When you care enough to stop noticing what the real issue is that someone has, only then will you be able creating a much more genuine relationship. Listening and truly understanding where someone is coming from is essential for applying the correct technology / method to solving issues.

Networking is easy and effective if you are willing to give first. There is only one thing that you can ask. Ask for whom may be able to help you, or ask for another connection this person could possibly offer to you. Your new contacts owe you nothing, certainly not respect or their time. Earn their attention by working hard connecting them with new people, ideas, concepts, products, and services. Only then will you become a master at networking and your income potential rises with it.



I am deeply impacted by the latest school shooting last week in Parkland FL. At the same time I feel hopeful that perhaps finally we can start to have a meaningful dialogue about how we will address this complex issue. I do not believe in “either, or” solutions – we need a “yes, and” approach. It was not one single issue that got us here, but a whole laundry list of things that keep going wrong.

What gives me hope are the school students that have been very vocal in their protests. I am proud of them asking us adults – who should know better – some very tough and justified questions. We have to start getting away from our keyboards and meet in person with our public leaders to get away from the toxic political polarization. Enough is enough.


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