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Using this Easter holiday to reflect and be grateful – plan your life using two great books


Using this Easter holiday to reflect and be grateful – plan your life using two great books 

Today’s post is about two books that will help you put your life in high gear. Use the Easter Holiday for some downtime and deep reflection.

The first book is by friend Alvin Brown. He is a personal trainer for top notch athletes who are determined to achieve excellence in whatever field they are in. 

Alvin wrote and released his first book “Journey to Personal Greatness: Mind, Body, & Soul: A Blueprint for Life Balance & Self-Mastery” (Discover more of the book here). It is based on his personal journey that took him and his family from Jamaica to Eastern Canada. His mom could make barely ends meet and he was living in the poorest conditions. Yet one decisive day he refused to live a mediocre life any more. He choose nothing but greatness and along the long way to success he managed to work himself up to where he is today: I consider him one of the most inspiring personal trainers and coaches I know.

I am glad that he took what he learned and placed it into a powerful book that invites you to also invite greatness into your life (that in itself is a sign of him being a great coach). Please make it a point to read his book – you will not regret it.

The second book is by friend May Lore. It is called Managing Thought. Stop letting people who do so little for you, control so much of your mind, feelings, and emotions. Easier said than done, right? The problem is actually not with the person you are having an issue with. It is your own thoughts that make your life miserable. 

Mary Lore @ManagingThought is a battle hardened thought leader on this subject. I am totally with her assertion that you are not your thoughts. A thought is only a thought and we can learn how to shape our thoughts so they work better for us.

The process is surprisingly simple. If you are older then you may remember the Viewmaster kids toy that featured all sorts of discs with neat pictures on them. You inserted them into the main red body of the device. Then you pulled a lever to advance to the next picture while viewing them through the lenses while holding the whole thing facing a bright light source. The significance lies in likening the discs to your thoughts. When a thought does not work for you, take that mental disc out and put another one in that works better. This mental re-framing works really well. It rests on the premise that you actively choose whether or not you allow someone to have control over your thoughts and how you feel about this.

NO ONE has power over you – power is granted. When someone is making you mad or sad realize that they are not doing that, but you are. Next time you feel getting angry etc make sure to take a deep breath and take that bad mental Viewmaster disc right out and substitute it with one that works better for you.

 

Ralf

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7 most important things you should have learned in Kindergarten


7 most important things you should have learned in Kindergarten 

Who hasn’t seen life hacks on your private, but also business social media platforms? “Sleep longer”, “drink more water”, “exercise more”, “treat people with respect”, etc. (discover a few of them here: Men, strong people, and efficiency). Isn’t it fascinating that this advice is strictly for adults? Did we all skip the many lessons Kindergarten, school, and our parents tried teaching us? It is ironic that a whole people and business coaching industry is teaching us adults the same things all over again. Who is the adult here? Shouldn’t we know better?

Now compare and contrast the poem at the end by Robert Fulghum who wrote the book “All I really need to know I learned in Kindergarten”. Are we incapable of learning our lessons? I guess in the end it does not matter. It is however very easy to go back to the basics and it does not have to cost a blooming fortune.

There are a few ways to remind yourself of those basic methods living a rich and full life:

  • Print out a copy of the poem below and tape it to your bathroom mirror. At least twice a day you will get a quick memory boost when you read through the list.
  • Buy by Robert Fulghum’s book “All I really need to know I learned in Kindergarten”. Download the Kindle version such that you can read it on the Kindle, cell phone, or tablet wherever you are. Read and re-read it from time to time.
  • In the event you have children, hang out in their classrooms when you get a chance. The vast majority of them will have posters with lists reminding the kids how to behave.

To get a new lease of life then you need to do something about what you have read. And that, my friends, is the commonality between our children and us adults: nothing ever happens without an actual change of our habits.

Ralf

 

“All I Really Need To Know I Learned In Kindergarten”

 

by Robert Fulghum

 

Most of what I really need

To know about how to live

And what to do and how to be

I learned in kindergarten.

Wisdom was not at the top

Of the graduate school mountain,

But there in the sandpile at Sunday school.

 

These are the things I learned:

 

Share everything.

Play fair.

Don’t hit people.

Put things back where you found them.

Clean up your own mess.

Don’t take things that aren’t yours.

Say you’re sorry when you hurt somebody.

Wash your hands before you eat.

Flush.

Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you.

Live a balanced life –

Learn some and think some

And draw and paint and sing and dance

And play and work everyday some.

Take a nap every afternoon.

When you go out into the world,

Watch out for traffic,

Hold hands and stick together.

Be aware of wonder.

 

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44 that will make you smile and think


44 that will make you smile and think 

Spring is still struggling to finally come through for us. Don’t let the bad weather and cold get to you. Hopefully the following brainteasers will help lift your spirit. Remember that while you may consider your life to be a mess – this maybe somebody’s nirvana because they have it so much worse than you do.

  1. Your shoes are the first thing people subconsciously notice about you. Wear nice shoes.
  2. If you sit for more than 11 hours a day, there’s a 50% chance you’ll die within the next 3 years
  3. There are at least 6 people in the world who look exactly like you. There’s a 9% chance that you’ll meet one of them in your lifetime.
  4. Sleeping without a pillow reduces back pain and keeps your spine stronger.
  5. A person’s height is determined by their father, and their weight is determined by their mother.
  6. If a part of your body “falls asleep”, you can almost always “wake it up” by shaking your head.
  7. There are three things the human brain cannot resist noticing – food, attractive people and danger
  8. Right-handed people tend to chew food on their right side
  9. Putting dry tea bags in gym bags or smelly shoes will absorb the unpleasant odor.
  10. According to Albert Einstein, if honey bees were to disappear from earth, humans would be dead within 4 years.
  11. There are so many kinds of apples, that if you ate a new one every day, it would take over 20 years to try them all.
  12. You can survive without eating for weeks, but you will only live 11 days without sleeping.
  13. People who laugh a lot are healthier than those who don’t.
  14. Laziness and inactivity kills just as many people as smoking.
  15. A human brain has a capacity to store 5 times as much information as Wikipedia
  16. Our brain uses the same amount of power as a 10-watt light bulb!!
  17. Our body gives enough heat in 30 minutes to boil 1.5 liters of water!!
  18. The Ovum egg is the largest cell and the sperm is the smallest cell(!).
  19. Stomach acid (conc. HCl) is strong enough to dissolve razor blades!!
  20. Take a 10-30 minute walk every day and while you walk, SMILE. It is the ultimate antidepressant.
  21. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
  22. When you wake up in the morning, pray to ask God’s guidance for your purpose, today.
  23. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
  24. Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat blueberries, broccoli, and almonds.
  25. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
  26. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip, energy vampires, issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
  27. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a college kid with a maxed out charge card.
  28. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
  29. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Forgive them for everything!
  30. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
  31. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
  32. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.
  33. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
  34. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
  35. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: ‘In five years, will this matter?’
  36. Help the needy, Be generous! Be a ‘Giver’ not a ‘Taker’
  37. What other people think of you is none of your business.
  38. Time heals everything – everything.
  39. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
  40. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
  41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
  42. Each night before you go to bed, pray to God and be thankful for what you’ll accomplish, today!
  43. Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.
  44. Common sense is not common practice.

Forward this to anyone you feel could use a little boost. Please send any of your favorite ones my way to include them in an upcoming blog post.

Ralf

13 ways how to become a leader and a manager


13 ways how to become a leader and a manager 

I have just read yet another article on LinkedIn about how you are either a leader, or a manager. It separated leaders being the folks that do the lofty dreaming and entrepreneurial stuff, and managers are the drones who just make the stuff leaders come up with happen. I have grown to believe that this is absolute nonsense. There is always a combination of the two. If you are the CEO you still need to possess better than average managerial skills. Conversely, as a line manager or team lead you still need to be able leading your team members by creating a purposeful and engaging work environment. Here are 13 quick tips that can make a huge difference for how well you lead and manage your team.

  • Park your personal agenda and ego: Did you ever like a boss that is only concerned about his / her own issues, but never yours? Turn that down a notch or two. Have you ever seen the movie “Saving Private Ryan”? In it there is a great line about leadership: “Never gripe down, always gripe up.” Your folks are not interested about your woes; their’s are big enough the way they are.
  • Be fair: Kick up the old golden rule to platinum level. Treat others how they would like to be treated. Never treat people differently. You will regret it in the end. The moment you lose their trust you will no longer be privy to vital people and company information. There has to be clarity about what applies to everyone.
  • Help promote your team members: Nothing shows more respect than to be a great career steward. Help your team advancing in their careers.
  • Give them a great reason to spend their time at work: Purpose and impact is what people are looking for. Especially Millennials will emphasize on this point.
  • What happens at the work place, stays at the work place: Other than the heavy hitters of employee safety, harassment, discrimination, moral, and ethical problems, no other team member information is supposed to leave your lips. Confidentiality is the keystone to how much you will be trusted as a leader.
  • Make sure having a great one on one contact with your team members: Nothing beats being able to help and assist your team members on a one on one basis. You get to know about their struggles and aspirations and you can help make a difference happen.
  • Listen, listen, and listen: Your organization can tell you anything you want to know about the state of mind of your folks and also the strategic and tactical progress you are making (or the lack thereof). Boy, did that take me a while to learn how to do this better. Asking engaging questions is the tougher but better thing to do and you get to listen to your organization’s creativity come alive.
  • Embrace transparency and collaboration: This builds trust. Trust begets creativity. Realize that you cannot and should work alone. You need all the help you can get working toward common goals. The worst that can happen in business is to have success. Success can outgrow and outspend you in a heartbeat. You need a team that is nimble and fully engaged in order to make it through the ups and downs of the economy.
  • Be humble and grateful: Nothing beats a little self-depreciating humor when you make mistakes. Admit them and make them public. No one – not even you – should be able getting away with not learning from your mistakes. At the same time you want your team to stay informed enough such that they will not have to make the same mistakes either. Be grateful for the openness your team affords you. Not allowed are intentional or pattern of mistakes.
  • Do something with what they tell you: When your team is trying to tell you that there is a systemic problem with a process, policy, people, etc. do something with this info. That is why you became the leader-manager in the first place. Do not let anyone else handle this important detail for you. This needs to come from and through you. Taking charge of difficult situations is (unfortunately) something you will to get to deal with. Do it well and people will trust you.
  • Be mindful of other people’s time commitments: Knowing when to end a conversation is tough. Sometimes it feels great speaking with like minded folks about issues you are mutually facing. Cut it short if it no longer serves the purpose. Do not fall victim to scope creep either. One issue leads to the next and then there is another one, etc. etc. Trust me, there are more challenges than you can shake a stick at. Keep it to solving one short and effective issue at a time.
  • Prepare meetings well ahead of time: Most meetings are really not necessary, or the are simply not effective. Too often leader-managers look at them as a “working meeting”, meaning that the problem, problem statement, and possible solution finding happen with the attendees hearing about this issue for the first time.
  • Start and end meetings on time: Do this religiously. Yes, there are times when it may be necessary to run over. Attempt your very best to get a reputation for beginning and ending on time. Your folks want to get their tasks done.

Do not be afraid to fail with any of the above topics. Only very few business schools are providing leadership and soft skill training – yet. I am hoping that one day leader-manager training will become a mandatory topic at graduate and undergraduate level. Plan, Do, Reflect, and Correct your future behavior and you will have made the biggest change already. Remember that you are a leader-manager. Good luck!

Ralf

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