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Your parents may be the dumbest people you will ever meet, and…


Your parents may be the dumbest people you will ever meet, and… 

Recently I went to an event that highlighted the workforce development crisis that has hit almost all industries in the region: Low unemployment rates that have been around for a while and the younger folks do not seem to be excited getting into the workforce early on. Manufacturing, Agriculture, Emergency providers, Hospitals, Trades, and even IT, etc are all dying at the vine for new team members. Among many issues one struck me as a new caveat: Millennials and younger adults are having issues finding and then connecting to future employers. How sad is this?

Assuming this is truth to this it would be sad indeed. One speaker then asserted the following, and I quote: “Your parents may be the dumbest people you will ever meet, and yet they are connected”. Going back to my youth I can totally identify with adolescents not wanting to have anything to do with their parents. On the other hand, they are indeed connected with so many people in many different circles. Why not make use of this invaluable resource. A parent should not get you the job, but they can certainly connect you with a person or place that may offer you a job. Make good use of this opportunity. Businesses do not hire people. People hire people and that requires connecting at a personal level.

There are so many open positions and exciting careers are waiting for suitable candidates. I am most excited about the many new opportunities that finally offer new career paths that allow starting a job and / or apprenticeship path that also embeds post-secondary education in it. This “yes and” pathway no longer lets students and parents dread having to make the choice between either going to college, or “just” joining the workforce. I am even more excited about more and more organizations paying attention to offering tuition re-imbursement, a career path, and a lot of support and structure helping team members get there.

All you need to do is allowing your parents to connect you with a person that just may listen to you – and it may lead to a new career path.

Ralf

There is no excuse for not going out to travel the world


There is no excuse for not going out to travel the world 

Photo credit: Ralf Weiser

Well, even if it is not the world that you want to see, at least get out of your state. Still not comfortable with that? Can you make this getting out of your home county? Pretty please? Traveling places and getting out of your comfort zone has so many mutual benefits. It helps you relax and see how other people do some of the same stuff you are doing – just differently. It helps benefit tolerance and back at home and work it creates a sense of appreciation of what you do.

Many a times I hear that people do not set their sails because they are afraid of not knowing how they should prepare for being on the road. In essence they are afraid that they are getting lost and that they would rather travel when they are much older so that they can take guided tours. Huh? What on Earth are they really afraid of?

I could perhaps understand when people are apprehensive of traveling overseas. Not being able to understand another language can be difficult, I give you that. One thing that we humans do well though is recognizing patterns and using visual and any or all of our senses. Here is a recent example of using the railroad in Germany. Even if you do not speak or read one word of German you can still figure out which train, car, and seat you have.

This first picture shows the reservation. It gives you the train number ICE842 (Inter City Express) and the time it is scheduled to depart at Berlin at 19.49 (that is 7.49pm for us). Gleis means track and here it is number 4. All it takes is asking someone from the helpful and countless railroad folks at the station and you will get to what you need to know. This also says something about a Reservierung. I had reserved two second class seats (the web site www,db.de also fully supports English). So 2 Pl are my 2 seats in Wg for wagon or car 22 and sitting in 25 and 27.

So once you reach track 4 you will see huge announcement boards like this one. You recognize the train number and departure time. Notice the letters A through G? Those are the zones in which the track is divided. You cannot miss the huge letter signs along the track. The little symbol below the letters represents the train and where it will come to a stop. The knife and fork symbol stands for the restaurant car and the 1s and 2s stand for first and second class cars. Now I know that I had better queue up in either zone F or G.

As the train pulls in each car features a sign on its side that shows the train number ICE842 and to its right is the car number. Here it is 23 and so I had to go back one more car. This also shows the place the train starts from, the stops it will make, and also the final destination.

 

 

Getting into the car now I start looking for the seat numbers right over top the seats near the luggage rack. That is kind of like getting on to a plane. The neat thing here is that you can tell if the seats are reserved when the signs like this photo show are lit up indicating starting and ending destination. Any seats not occupied are on a first come first taken basis. Once the conductor checks your tickets (Deutsche Bahn even has an awesome App for this) and you are getting close to the final destination the signs disappear magically.

There is even free Wifi on the train and most of the time you will be zooming through the super nice country side with more than 120mph. ICE trains make very few stops and with the proper discount cards renting and driving a car is not worth it from a time and monetary point of view. Sure, there are a few moments when I initially did not know exactly what to do. I will never forget the disbelieving look from a fellow travel when he had to explain how the seat reservation sign worked in the car. Those moments come and go. They can and should not prevent you from going on the road. There is not even a language barrier when you travel into another county or state (well, there may be another dialect). Look for the patterns that emerge and make sure you travel your heart out.

Ralf

Revenge of the Ugh people


Revenge of the Ugh people 

Photo credit: Pablo by Buffer

“Ugh”. That is how many social media posts start. The people who author these type of posts try venting about another day or situation having gone awry. Does this help them any? I doubt it, but it is almost like they are getting a quiet revenge in on the people who read this. Anyone who reads it gets invited to drift – the post has their full attention and it may make you respond to it, or at a minimum it can get you all stirred up. All of a sudden their Ugh-day turns into yours as well.

Bottom line is that after all the “Ugh-ing” is said and done you are still no better off than before. I even argue this kind of mental griping does the opposite. Nothing positive can come out of moping around like this. You are not your thoughts; you have a choice to think a different thought. I am not inviting you to go around Pollyanna style and ignoring may be happening right under your nose. I am inviting you to not participate in this negative practice carpet bombing us with one “Ugh” after the other. Instead focus on the things that you can impact and you will find that there is a lot more control over the things that you may realize. Instead of “Ugh” say “Isn’t that fascinating” and then put the odds in your favor and to stay positive on and off social media.

Ralf

When is enough enough?


When is enough enough? Ralf a

You get what you tolerate. That adage hits me straight in the forehead time and again. A close relative of candor is tolerance. It is not necessarily the polar opposite, but in fact it can be worse as tolerance comes close to ignorance. Tolerating a pattern of performance issues, incompetence, and a pattern of mistakes will only get you and the other party into trouble. At the home front it may be your significant other who just irks you with a few issues.

Yes, you will have to put some will power into being honest with yourself and then others. The benefits outweigh the disadvantages almost all the time. The moment you put it out there what you would like to see, people will naturally change on their own in order to help you. If the pattern still continues you now know that you must make tougher choices: Do you need to change yourself or is it time to abandon your current relationship? Thinking and acting upon your choices will bring peace of mind.

Take a typical example from work. You have a co-worker that annoys you with his / her loud telephone conversations. You could just leave it be, complain to others about this and finally just be miserable about it. On the other hand, you could choose to speak with the colleague and tell him / her how you feel and ask if he / she could possible do something about this. Catch the drift?

Here is a tip how to bring your issue up with others: First and foremost you need to have a plan what and how you wish change to occur. Why is a plan important? You need to keep the meeting with your other party as constructive and factual as possible. Confrontation is not the way to go as you pull feeling and emotion into the discussion, which can put everybody’s brain into flight or fight mode. That would not be good. Identify the issue and think about what would happen if nothing changes.
Write it down and share this thought with your counterpart during the meeting. Now think really hard about what the change looks like that you are asking about. Voice your desired outcome in the meeting.

Life is all about the choices you make. Choose speaking about this and affect a change even if it is hard at first to make the start. Otherwise you will get what you tolerate.

Ralf

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