Ralf Weiser's Blog – Shake Up Your Snow Globe! ©

Stop doing, shake your globe, ponder, dream, start reaching your full potential – live on purpose and do it with a smile!

6 tell tale signs when to leave your toxic work place

6 tell tale signs when to leave your toxic work place Smaller FB

I recently spoke with a good friend who had been working for a very hostile work environment. She ended up leaving and regretting not having done so sooner. There had been signs of trouble early from the early stages of employment. Here are a few toxic workplace indicators that you should look out for:

  • Presence of fear. People are afraid to say what they think.
  • Absence of candor. People will not honestly share what they think of their jobs, other people and their ideas.
  • Presence of putting people down. People put each other down.
  • Absence of collaboration. People make a significant effort to work against each other. Jockeying for positions and favoritism run rampant.
  • Presence of cynicism and sarcasm. It is difficult for you to figure out what people mean. You feel the energy drain from you in meetings and other interactions with other employees.
  • Absence of laughter. Morale, what morale? There is no laughter and there is always a bad vibe in the air.

What’s your job here? Scan for the presence of absence of the above criteria at your workplace. Does this place give you as much energy as it takes away from you? Make sure you spend your time surrounded by positive people. If you are not happy, why are you still working there?


How to prove to yourself how serious you are about your life priorities

How to prove to yourself how serious you are about your life priorities Smaller FB

Life balance is what a lot of us are pursuing with great emphasis. I have grown to accept that there are 6 main life balance categories, which are as follows:

  • Health
  • Spirituality
  • Relationships
  • Emotional
  • Intellectual
  • Financial

Each should be rated and also ranked. Your rating for each should be equally high – that would be indicative of how balanced your life is. Which one would be your number one priority? Which would be last? Going through this mental exercise is a great start, but how do you provide yourself with a feedback loop that you are actually taking your priorities serious?

The answer to this dilemma is as easy as it is practical. Take a look at your calendar. It does not matter whether you use the good old paper version, or an electronic calendar of your choice. How much time are you dedicating to any of your 6 life priorities? They should have left evidence behind that you are spending time – your most precious resource – on all of them.

If you want balance in life you will need to plan ahead and dedicate sufficient time on anything that you feel has a high priority.


Do I have to be perfect? How to provide an answer for your kids

Do I have to be perfect? How to provide an answer for your kids IMAG0711

If women went by the physique of Barbie then they would need to be about 7 feet tall and weigh around 110 pounds. A far cry from reality, huh? You watch TV and you get totally bombarded by the “ideal” picture what we and our lives should look like. What kind of example do we set for our kids, and ourselves?

Ahh, the perfect life. It may be nice to look at but is this still the ideal to go for? Why do we think that the life style of the rich and famous is really for the average person? That is way too much stress on the account of comparing yourself to the very few. Yet so much of TV and the news revolve around a super small percentage of our population.

Sure we may all get carried away sometimes with the thought of having more money than sense. Looking like a model, living in a mansion, driving all kinds of fancy cars, and so many more sure may clutter our brains and we wonder what it would feel like to be that day someday.

The biggest issue is that this rat race starts from a very early stage in life. Attached is a drawing my daughter drew a while back when she pondered the issue. She still cannot fathom why she needs to be perfect. For that matter we have not been able to really ever agree on the definition of “perfect”. She did get the point that the most outrageous life style of wealthy and well-known people may be appealing, but it does come with major issues. The total loss of privacy being amongst the worst.

The most important thing that you can do for your children is to love them and actually showing that to them. Love them for who they are, where they are, and what the potential is that may be taking a sleeping beauty nap waiting to woken up sometime soon. Generate a healthy self-respect within you and your children and do not hold them up to false ideals. That is all they need to know.

What is perfect anyway? Help her define what “normal” and “perfect” means – for herself. Your normalcy must make sense to you and her. Period. Do not stress yourself and your kids out by wishing they can be (or should be) something or someone that they are not. Then always keep your doors open for when they come to you seeking advice. That is the beautiful part of being a parent: giving them roots whilst also giving them wings.


Crisis brings out purpose and so much more

Crisis brings out purpose and so much more Ralf a

Nothing flushes out what your real priorities and values are until you are in crisis mode – and that is the ironic thing about it: crisis helps bring about change and your purpose.

The most important thing you can do for yourself when you are under duress is to open your mind, heart, and will for your purpose to develop in front of your eyes. Instead of dreading stressful challenges coming your way, embrace them instead. Journal about what happened and how you dealt with it. If need be, the best practice is to momentarily retreat from the turbulent action. Regroup and allow planning time. The fewer thoughts you have the better, because they are of a better quality.

Ponder this list of questions and really listen to your inner voice replying to them.

  • What elements really spoke to me?
  • What gave me energy?
  • What drained me of energy?
  • What were the things I learned from the experience?
  • Was there a moment when I stopped the process and changed course? Why? What worked here? What didn’t?
  • Who were my allies?

True moments of clarity do not come along easily. They either take tremendous planning and self-directed effort, or they occur during crisis. One way or the other, make good use of the opportunities that come your way. Never accept average when you could reach your full potential – we are blessed with so much of it, so don’t waste it.


Post Navigation

%d bloggers like this: